What do you do?
People love to categorise, make things simple for themselves, and this includes when they categorise you. Generally if humans don’t know someone then they don’t usually care to invest a huge amount of their own personal time in getting to know them unless they can benefit their survival or replication value in some way.
Can he/she help get me laid by a hot girl? Can he/she help protect me from dangerous situations?
Not the most attractive part of human conditioning! But still a necessary one because there are only a certain number of hours in the day.
If a smelly, homeless looking man approaches you in the street coughing and spluttering. You probably are thinking only two things, who is this mother f**ker? and how can I get away from him? I’m wildly over generalising ? but on average you probably won’t want to go for a beer or play multiplayer Battlefield 3 with him.
Now instead what if I told you this homeless looking guy is the owner of Match.com website and the reason he looked like that is he’d just been beaten up and thrown in a rubbish bin.
Things change right? wow this guy can probably get us dates with the hottest girls on Match.com . In fact he can level with us right now and let us know whether there are actually any hot, emotionally stable girls on match.com 
Kidding!
He now has massive replication value for us though. I love going out sarging but also equally it could be pretty cool just being sent hot girls to my local bar every night for nothing!
Instead of not caring to spend any time with the homeless looking guy, the brain will now try to find cool things to say to him. Try to impress him, much like an AFC who hasn’t had pick up coaching might do with a girl. So the scenario is now flipped on its head.
So make sure you have your identity solid.
Are you an engineer? Talk about how you love to create things and you get to see something at the end of the process.
Are you in security? Talk about how you were always protective with your family and now I protect the world.
If you work in a clothes shop and you dislike it, talk about how you are currently working there to pay the bills but you have big dreams for the future.
You don’t want to open with your identity because you don’t want to “TRY” and impress people. That is low value. But do have a solid identity ready so when a girl asks you.
What do you do?
You have an answer!
Either you are currently doing what you love, or what you are currently doing is a step to bigger things. She wants to see that you have a passion for life because that means you would also have a passion for her.
Peace n Love,
Kingy
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I’ve had a couple of these moments recently, and wow, that metaphor by Kingy about the mountaintops is absolute quality.
Good post mate, I enjoyed it.
One of the big questions floating in my head is if I want to have children or not. I would like to know the answer to that question before I start sarging for weekends on end. I think that by knowing the answer to that question I’ll feel more comfortable in the field.
Right now when I go out I don’t really think I know what I want and fall for any pretty piece of ass I see. If I knew what I would I would be able to judge a woman based on my desire for how I want my life to be and not how hard she makes me.
I don’t see what there is to explain to her! The girl im seeing now HB7.5, knows i like this stuff, and it interests me. She sees it as another ‘guy’ thing and doesn’t interfere with me. Especially when i tell her, mens self improvement is something that i find very important and one day id love to teach. Shes like wow okay, this guy is the leader of men! and hes different! Ontop of that he gets laid by alot of girls! i like it.
sometimes people just dont click. its cool dude, abundance abundance abundance