The Power of the Maybe


Hey man,


Imagine yourself as a rabbit just living with your “rabbitness”. You are not good or bad, beautiful or ugly, shy or confident. You are simply a rabbit, running around on a green hill, freely, peacefully and without any judgements. When it is time to pass away you do so entering back into the mysterious space or “God” as many call it.


Masters don’t associate themselves as either or and instead just take action. David Beckham in an interview said “I believe I can change the game or score a goal at any point during a match. I don’t say that thinking I’m special but it is a belief that I have.” Bruce Lee once said “You can only truly believe that you can do something if you have done it many times before”.


There is difference between beliefs and having opinions about yourself. When you do something it will train your mind to believe that you can repeat that particular action without ego attachment. There is no attachment to action and so it is the same type of belief as if you are able to “fix your car” or “pick up a girl on the street”. A belief goes beyond personal identification and becomes part of your subconscious mind.





So understanding that your beliefs go beyond personal identification should help you to realise that there is no point to personal identification at all. Today after I had queued in the super market, I walked towards the cashier and a woman jumped in front of me and said, “I’m next!” to the cashier. I simply asked is that right? She smile, apologised and walked out. The cashier then told me she was just playing with me. My unconscious mind would love to try and interpret and solve what just happened. Why did she play with me? Do I look like an easy target? What other people have played with me?


Instead I simply replied with maybe to all of those questions in my mind. “Maybe I am an easy target, maybe I’m not, who knows”. With that acceptance of the moment the situation had no affect on me. I didn’t feel embarrassed or angry.


Palm trees are the most durable of trees found on the coast. When strong hurricane winds blow they can literally bend right over onto the ground and their trunk will not snap. They are completely flexible to stormy weathers and because of that they endure. A tree with less flexibility will simply snap or be up-routed. The power of the maybe enables you to be flexible like a palm tree when crazy things start to happen.





The power of Maybe is at the centre of ceasing personal identification with what is happening. You are not identifying with it and you are not un-identified with it. It is just some event that has happened which has no meaning on who you are.


The Surrender side of the Maybe will look something like this.


“Your ugly” – “Maybe I am Ugly”
“You look scared” – “Maybe I do look scared”
*she gives you a bad look – “Maybe I made her feel uncomfortable”


The Action side of the Maybe will look more like this.


“Maybe I am not Ugly”
“Maybe I don’t look scared”
“Maybe I didn’t make her feel uncomfortable”


My ego was large and ego loves to control so I found that my personal direction was more towards the surrender and letting go of control. From teaching I find this to be true for seventy percent of guys. For the other thirty percent who don’t have much ego or are too humble then you will want to maintain self love which is more balance towards the action side of the maybe.


You can say The Power of Maybe out loud. I do this all the time in relationships and also during pick up. The girl says something negative about me which can also be called a shit test and I simply reply with “Maybe that’s true”. I pass the test and remain completely unaffected by it. The thing that was deigned to hurt me has just flown right past me and I have decided not to identify with it.





Some girls like to be in control all of the time. It is similar reasons to why us men do this. We are all human! It is probably not a good idea to get into a relationship with a controlling girl and an easy way to find this out is by using the Power of the Maybe. “Maybe that is true” will result in a controlling girl saying something like “Yes it definitely is true”. She has strong opinions about something which is a demonstration of being controlling which comes from the ego. It can be fun to get controlling girls emotional with the maybe and also it is a very useful test to see if a girl is long-term material for you.


Master the maybe and you will develop more self confidence then you could ever imagine. Even when the waters get stormy.


Peace n Love,


Kingy

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