Hey Happy Christmas and New Year! It’s all about stuffing and jelly sandwiches I’ve spent christmas with my family. Playing a lot of multiplayer Wii which is awesome with four players on a wide screen and eating way too much. Great Times

So onto the main topic of the day Russell Brand. I find myself constantly looking for role models to evolve myself further.  The people I choose aren’t necessarily big pimps but instead have characteristics that I’d like for myself.  Russell Brand (before Katy Perry) had been giving his love to an un-imaginable amount of women.  In this article I shall analyse and reveal the secrets to how he has been so successful with women.

At first glance Russell Brand doesn’t appear to adhere to the typical Alpha Male stereotype.  Skinny, long hair, feminine body language and an obvious vulnerability don’t usually go hand in hand with a Don Juan.  Before we take a closer look though, lets remove his fame.  He has been quoted saying that when girls don’t know he’s famous it usually takes a lot longer to get them to come to his house, bed or a public toilet.  This is definitely true as women need time to asses a mans behaviour.  Where mens’ attraction to women is based primarily on her replication value.  Many single men would have no problem having sex with a woman that they just met in a park.

So lets remove his fame (sorry Russell, you can have it back shortly )  Imagine this scenario, he enters a nightclub and no one has ever met or seen him before.

First off his style, unique, eye catching and sexual.  This makes him standout out in a cool way and can help a lot.  By creating interest and attention from women, other women will then presume you are an attractive male.  I do this sometimes in the form of fake tattoos, my ear piercings and dressing in extravagant clothes.  Max has tested this too by spiking his hair up, (which is huge) wearing funky clothes and standing in a bar by himself.  Obviously he is having fun and looking confident rather than nervous or like a social reject.  Just by standing out and going to a bar he will get approached by a few women in the evening and can choose one to take home.  This is nothing to do with his looks, just the fact he’s congruent in standingout.

Sexual Humour plays a big part in Russell Brands interactions with women.  This is both because it amuses him and he has learnt over time that it gets girls excited too.  Saying shocking things or sexual topics will create emotions in girls.  Girls respond to emotions and not logic.  This is done with natural calibration and gradual escalation.  Not immediately will Russell Brand launch into strong sexual topics, instead, over a period of time.

Russell Brand has great confidence and is very un-reactive.  From reading his auto-biography it seems that this wasn’t always the case though.  In fact from his own admission, he used to be shy and would rather spend time away from people.  Gradually since college he exposed himself to new situations and social interactions outside of his comfort zone.  In the beginning this involved a lot of talking to people on the street.  Sound familiar?  Then it progressed to MTV work, presenting to larger groups of people and crazy stunts on his show like peeing his pants in public.  If you stay outside of your comfort zone enough you will grow and those old challenges will become easy.

A thing that we share in common is that Russell meditates regularly.  I’ve meditated for about ten minutes every day for six months.  Not a massive investment of time but because it has been regular I have seen positive shifts in my inner game. My ego is less so I rarely need any form of positive feedback from other people when talking to them.  For instance I remember one time when I was chatting with a group of four girls and two guys.  I ended up not dominating the interaction because I was an outsider of the social group and they were talking about a lot of insider topics.  This caused a level of stress, I went into my head and then I became stifled and up tight.  With meditation, I’m now able to stay in the moment, watch my breathing and stay present.  I don’t mind what is happening, I stay happy and outside of my head.  Then I can either pursue a new topic of conversation or wait for the conversation to natural come back to me and because I’m in a good mood I usually respond well.

Can you see the difference when he’s not completely comfortable?  Below are two clips, one from his first Jonathon Ross performance and the other from a later one.  In the first clip he is a lot less comfortable and ends up micromanaging most of the interview.  This leads to less humour and if I’m super analytical a passive aggressive vibe.  In the second clip he is a lot more relaxed and able to vibe as his best self.  I don’t show this to mock but instead to encourage others.  People aren’t perfect or born great.  It takes time and practice to become great and if someone is better than you then they have just practiced more.  It is completely natural to be nervous about going into an unknown situation.  The way to have complete confidence in something is to do it over and over again.

I showed this to my friend and she struggled to see the difference (other than he seemed happier and funnier in the second clip). Girls aren’t thinking “he’s not feeling entitled” they usually are just responding to the vibe that you put out. Look at his eyes, facial expressions and how relaxed he looks in the two clips. From teaching pickup for years I’m able to notice social ques I’d say as good if not better than women can. It has taken me years of experiencing difficult social situations to get this, definitly not something that I was born with.

Those, my insights on the English gent and legend that is Russell Brand.  Definitely a recommended role model for learning how to get better with women and social interactions in general.  It is an un-natural thing to break down someone’s behaviour but the quickest way to get good at something is to model yourself on someone who is good.  That is why I make sure that all our instructors including myself demo on Bootcamps.  Next time I think I’ll be focusing on the pimping power of 50 cent.

Peace and Love,

Kingy

p.s. I’ve been getting a lot of emails asking when the Zen of Dating book is going to be released. It’s finished, just needs editing, I predict another couple weeks at the desk. Remember you will get a free copy plus the Text Game E-Book when you sign up for a Full Bootcamp. Set your goals for the new year and go for it!

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