Hey Dude!


Lets clear up qualification and how to qualify a girl properly!!


Qualification comes after the girl shows signs that she is attracted to you. It allows you to find out things about the girl. Female to Male attraction has to come first because with girls, it takes a little time for them to feel attraction. Female attraction is like a volume knob that responds to your behaviour and get turned up by alpha male demonstrations.


Demonstrate your personality first, then when she is showing interest you can begin Qualification.


I recommend taking five minutes to write down three things that you look for in a girl that aren’t to do with her looks. That way, when you ask one of these questions, the girl will notice that you legitimately care about the answer. If you run out of things to say, I recommend you ask a Qualification question. These questions are lot more interesting than talking about the weather, which just looks like you are filling time.


When you ask a Qualification question you want to ask it in a slightly judgemental tone. Many times on bootcamp, I see students asking qualification questions in an attempt to develop rapport. You shouldn’t be asking these questions if you’re just going to agree with whatever she says.

TR = Trying for Rapport
NR = Neutral Rapport
BR = Breaking Rapport


You can see that TR slopes up at the end which refers to the pitch of your voice increasing at the end of a sentence. NR is neutral so the pitch of your voice doesn’t fluctuate. The pitch of your voice lowers at the end of a sentence in BR. This might be how you boss talks to you. You want to be talking in either NR or BR and never in TR. Trying comes from a place of lower value and a lacking of abundance.


Qualification usually comes in the form of a statement and a question.


The statement: “I find I get on well with people who like to travel” sets the tone and makes it clear what you like.


The question: “do you like to travel?” is the qualification and she now has a choice.


She can either try to impress you with “Yes I love travelling” or “No, not really”. Her answer is important – either she’ll Qualify herself, deliberately won’t, or just doesn’t know how to.

If the girl doesn’t Qualify herself, then you can punish her slightly by paying her less attention. Either look around the room, turn your back to her and talk to her friends or just look a little disappointed. You don’t want to be happy with everything that she says. If the girl annoys or disappoints you then show this. Then go back to Attraction by expressing your personality naturally, and trying another Qualification question. Repeat this process until the girl Qualifies herself or walks off.


If the girl does Qualify herself to you then you want to reward this with attention. Touching her, or saying “I knew you were cool” are always good. Alternatively express interest in what she is saying and at the end say “that’s awesome I love that”, then proceed to another topic of conversation.


Example:


Man: “I tend to find I get on with people that like to travel or at least would be willing to travel. Do you like to travel?”


Woman: “Yes I like to travel, I went to USA for 3 months…………”


Man: “That’s awesome, what part of USA did you go to?”


Woman: “I backpacked down the west coast all the way to Mexico”


Man: “I love travelling, I knew you were cool J”


Man: [Return to normal conversation and vibing]


You now have something in common and have increased your connection with each other. Qualification also reduces last minute resistance in the bedroom. I have found that even if the girl isn’t into travelling or whatever you asked but finds you attractive she will usually find someway to impress you.


Peace and Love,


Kingy

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