Hey Guys,

Sorry for the slow post, ive been very busy behind the scenes, writing, teaching very good back to back bootcamps and recording videos for new video blog footage which will appear next month.  Todays post is on beliefs and why they are so vital in getting that pua level of success that is desired and without them it is impossible to sustain.

In the community reports of HB8’s 9’s and 10’s are posted all over the place saying how pua’s got a number close, kiss close or even a full close.

That’s okay but what would you rate yourself out of 10? To get a full close from a girl that you view higher than you view yourself you are either running a lot of routines, she just wanted to hook up with anyone or you are using a fake persona.

How could the pua keep a 9 or a 10 if they only view themselves as a 7? What happens when your lines run out, and you are left with nothing but the real you. Why are you able to have relationships with 6’s and 7’s but not any higher, can you honestly meet, attract and keep hot women? what do you view yourself as? Are you deserving?

I asked all my instructors what they rated themselves on an attractiveness / coolness 1-10 rating system, they were told to answer honestly from the core and didn’t know the others were rating themselves as well. The results are as follows:-

Beckster – 10

Max – 10

Me – 10

Cupid – 9.5 //because I don’t want to appear too cocky lol

To the core they all believe they are the coolest guys to have ever graced this earth, any woman would be lucky to be with them, even that super bitchy 9 surrounded by guys.

Beckster has never given a girl a 10 and 9’s are very rare, so you can imagine that a lot of girls don’t even get close to how cool he is. He feels completely deserving of every and any girl he meets.

Is this not delusional though? Yes and No but ultimately who cares what you base this rating on its just that you believe in yourself, this is all that matters. Believe in yourself.

None of my instructors have thick egos and can all make fun of themselves no problem, the self deprecation always comes from a place of high self-esteem. We all have beliefs even Zen Monks will have beliefs about things, its human nature, for example “If I sit down this floor will support my weight”.

Here are some thoughts from the other instructors and myself on why we truly belief we are entitled to the hottest of girls.

Me:

I am well travelled,

I am very confident,

I am tall

I give lots and lots of value to everyone I meet,

I am a nice person,

I have dated super hot girls in the past,

I workout and eat healthy, I respect myself

I am going places and growing constantly

Beckster:

I’m am the coolest yes cos as u would say and as Bruce lee says I am water necessity is the mother of all inventions.

If anyone thinks less of themselves than a 10 they are not giving themselves the chances they should.

Max:

I have something everyone else wants and nobody else has, that by definition makes me a 10.

Cupid:

I know I’m more than most people.

I have 4 different cultural backgrounds and I live with a Chinese family

I’m bilingual and I can understand people.

I know I’m a good bf and I have decent morals

I’m very positive person and

I make people feel good

I’m also double jointed :O

The reasons are good and based on real things but also are irrelevant at the same time. Case in point Beckster and I probably have a lot more obvious value that we could offer a girl than Cupid. Nice lifestyle, more life experience, money, travel where as cupid is going back to university but the quality of girls between the three of us is no different.

Cupid believes that being a good person, making people feel good and having good morals are a lot more important that the other things rightly or wrongly it doesn’t matter but he does believe this and so keeps his feeling of entitlement when walking up to a 9.

For whatever reason you believe you are entitled to getting hot women is fine as long as you really believe it. Tip here: Make sure your beliefs are based on real things which you think you actually offer to the world otherwise incongruence’s will set in and you will stop believing.

Another thing to bare in mind, the beliefs you have should ideally focus inwards rather than outwards.

By inward beliefs I mean things like:-

I’m well travelled

I work out

I eat healthy

I always offer value whether people see this or not

I am a nice person

I have goals and meet them

The beliefs above are all based on things that you do or have done so you are in complete control over these beliefs as long as you stick to them. For instance if one of your beliefs is that you’re a nice person and you act like a real ass in the rest of your life you wont believe this belief for long.

Outward facing beliefs like:-

I have a nice car

I am rich

I get lots of IOIs when out

These outward beliefs will always be at the mercy of other people, for instance getting loads of IOIs will lead to you always having to be dressed well and getting good reactions from girls before you feel entitled to approach. Having a nice car could at some point be taken away from you leaving you with a crumbled belief and lacking in what the belief meant to you.

How we form beliefs is also interesting, there are simple belief systems and webbed belief systems in your mind.

Simple Beliefs

This is when a belief for instance: “I am tall” means “I am a cool guy”, there is no cross over.

Webbed Beliefs

This is when a belief is attached to another belief and that belief is attached to other belief and so on, making a spider web, illustrated below. The bad thing about this is that when ever just one of those beliefs is threatened it will affect all of the other beliefs in the web. This is why when the stock market crashed many rich business men who had lost all their money put a gun to their head, they lost all of their web-based beliefs, identity and confidence and so they felt there was only one way out.

Write down what beliefs you believe about yourself and give yourself an overall rating “making it a 9+ ” Remember times when you’ve fulfilled each one of your beliefs in the past make them vivid and real.

When out in the nightclub actively remember that you are in fact a 9+ guy for all those reasons and then look at the girl and what would you rate her. I also recommend that you look at her faults when approaching and in conversation. E.g. “She has small boobs, her hair isn’t thick as it could be, she is short”. Now I’m not saying you want to keep this up indefinitely but for the beginning just to help you realise that girls aren’t perfect and have their own insecurities I recommend this.

In the rest of your life make sure you are respecting yourself and keeping up the beliefs that you have about yourself. This will give you more and more reference points of oh yes I am a cool guy and eventually you wont need to re-enforce your belief system un-naturally because you will just believe.

Peace and Love,

Kingy

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