Today I have a new video from Jordan. The first five minutes is Jordan talking on a recent bootcamp. He gives a few nuggets of pick up information of what to do during the approach.
The final part of the video Jordan talks with you 1-1 about how to pick up intimidating women. He discusses the misconceptions of intimidating women and the power of going for what you want.
Lots of value enjoy!
Also here is an article that I recently wrote on how porn can affect your game. A very honest article but something which I feel has to be said as it is a CRUCIAL step towards developing NAG! Natural Authentic Game.
NAG is where you become game, you are ALWAYS naturally attractive because you are authentic.
Double value enjoy!!
Give up porn or not?
There are always two opinions to this. Use porn to get you horny and go out or give it up completely and use that drive to go out.
What do you think is best?
From my experience giving up porn has been the best option for me. During my fairly lonely teenage years porn and food were two of my best friends. They would never let me down and were always there for me. They’d distract me from the unhappy feelings I might have been feeling at the time. The chocolate and dairy would numb me out and porn would fill that not having a girlfriend.
Over a long period of time doing both of these things can have a detrimental effect on yourself as a person though. Just like anything where you are using something as a stimulant to cover over pain, fear, anger or guilt. This includes routines!! If you are lacking confidence don’t pretend to be someone you are not, go AUTHENTIC! heal yourself first then add the NLP or a few routines on top. You don’t build double glazing into a house which has rotten foundations. You clear out the rot first.
So porn was always a friend to me. I’d have a little cry wank about how lonely I was. tears as lubrication…..
This made me happy for a while watching some busty blonde but not for long…… it was a distraction. Real life can be tough, it can be painful. If you weren’t raised awesome then you probably have some stuff that you need to deal with. It can be scary and painful facing those things which are holding you back. This is why I have so much empathy for students because I know what they are going through. From confidence issues, self worth, loneliness, Approach Anxiety, fear of rejection. I’ve had those things too so I know how tough they can feel at the time.
What is the choice though?
To continue to distract yourself from the underlying problems or to face them however much short-term pain that might cause?
If you want beautiful women and for them to stay around there is no choice! Change must come from the inside and so your focus should follow that.
Back to porn again, porn can also desensitise you to sex. Like any stimulant your body will not like it. So it will build up tolerance to the stimulant. For instance the more coffee, beer, drugs you take the more you get used to them and need to increase the dosage. Even a mental stimulant like porn creates the same effect. Your mind will desensitise you to watching it however this will result in you needing more.
I’d hate to think how much time I’ve actually wasted during my life watching porn. I think it depends on how big your sex drive is. I know some people who have very low ones, 1 wank per week. And myself I’d used to need at least 1 per day or 2. I also have a friend who is a big name in the pua community who has to wank 5 times per day. That is such a waste of time that could be put into building productive processes.
When you stop watching porn your sex drive wont go down. So in fact you will become hornier when you go out. However the desire to wank will go down, so when you are at home you aren’t horny because you don’t associate being on the computer with sex. It is all association. Talking to women = sex, computer = work time. Wanking is more like an addiction rather than you needing to do it. Wanking is a daily habit so when you stop it you will notice that your physical need to do it is not actually there at all.
A lot of students have trouble getting turned on when talking to women. They lack that sexual connection when talking to her. You want to be feeling her emotionally and physically, enjoying in the moment.
By switching off the porn you become more sensitive to women. Just the right touch, her pressing her boobs up against you or a dance can turn you on. If you are watching the boob tube then a sexual moment that you experience infield will not be as arousing to you. You will miss that chance to get turned on with her. Remember what you feel, she will feel, you WANT to get turned on talking to women because then she will get turned on too. By stopping the porn you give yourself the best chance to start getting that sexual connection with women.
Let me say this again “what you feel, she will feel”. You want to get turned on talking to women because the sexual escalation will happen a LOT quicker. She will get really horny whilst talking to you and in turn this will create a sexual connection between the two of you. If you watch porn then you will desensitise youself to experiencing that sexual connection.
Live a clean, honest and authentic life. Try to take out these addictions one at a time. Face your problems and heal yourself by taking the path of the hero. The masses live distracted, half crazed lives and that is why they live half-lives. Average job, average women, average travel, STEP UP have fun! It is propoganda to believe being lazy is cool, watch the movies in Hollywood. The typical male hero in films is now a “Oh well, silly me”, “oops that’s life” type characters. This is not how real life works, you must always HEAL yourself and take ACTION. Live the life of a hero!
Finally, stopping the porn can be tricky. Almost every electronic device can connect to the internet these days. I actually think people in the power positions of society like us to be addicted to porn. It keeps us distracted right…? nice consumers that don’t ask questions.
So how to remove porn from our lives?
Your phone - get your provider to activate child lock on it by calling them up.
Your PC - install a net nanny program. The program I use is actually called net nanny. Activate the porn filters on it and then try to get around these filters. If you are addicted to porn which I’d say MOST of us are then trying to beat the program will be one of the first things you’ll try to do when your alone. So try to get round the filters and then when you do add those sites to the list of blocked websites. Do this when you are feeling strong and have will power. Finally add an admin password to it and then send this password to a friend you can trust. You now can’t login to the program and turn it off. Your PC and mind are now safe.
IPAD – remove ipad explorer and install a protected child net browser.
There will be other devices that you will want to block the internet from. For me giving up porn really felt like losing a friend. Pretty sad! All videos on the PC were also deleted. I’d say I was an average man who liked to watch porn. Since removing this average behaviour from my life I have benefited in so many different ways. Plus I’m way more aroused when talking to women in the club and so sexual escalation is natural and powerful.
Hit the clubs and go for it! Let me know how you get on. If you hesitate you masterbate!
Peace n Love,