How To Stop Fidgeting!


Hello everyone! Jordan is back with another blog! I would like to talk about the importance of not fidgeting, and how to control ones body movement in terms of interaction.


When a woman, or even a guy, spots someone fidgeting, this can be portrayed as a sign of feeling uncomfortable or feeling nervous.


Especially when you are chatting up a high value woman AND feeling nervous!  As soon as those hands start moving in an uncontrollable fashion, or the body starts rocking uncontrollably, she will instantly see right through this and most possibly portray you as a guy not worthy.


Sometimes these actions occur without even knowing.  So how does one control these actions?





Well, firstly in order to sort out those nervous actions that occur without knowing, one must overcome the “fear” of chatting up a hot woman. You must learn how to stop fidgeting.


I found myself in the past, during my self development process, that chatting to regular people became a habit and I was fine, and then chatting up a woman that I found incredibly hot was extremely nerve racking.  Friends would notice this, and they even commented to how my body language changed and how I would begin to fidget uncontrollably.  It may be that I would be looking around her and finding it difficult to maintain eye contact, or it may be that I would automatically start tapping my foot without meaning it, or touching my clothes or playing with something I was holding.


Forcing yourself to chat to the hottest girls out there is simply the BEST way to begin to lose that feeling of nervousness.


You can read countless books, and I can chat to you for hours regarding to how you can fix yourself, but I would be lying if I said that was the alternative.


Guys can EASILY be fixated by that perfectly looking woman across the bar, or walking down that high street.


Just a second eye contact with that stunner, can make a 6’6” body builder’s legs turn to jelly.


Now imagine the power of value you will demonstrate when you approach this absolute stunner, and she’s going to automatically assume you are going to show signs of nervousness, and there you are standing with absolute confidence, maintaining that eye contract and your body language in TOTAL control, while those movements that you are NOT in control of show signs of instant confidence because you ARE naturally feeling confident inside and out!


That in itself is VALUE, and SOLID DHV.





This helps during day game and night! Obviously this will be a different scenario if the girl is dancing, or at a very high energy level, then the approach will be taken slightly differently, but for that girl standing at the bar or maintaining that normal energy level, then keeping a level head with posture helps considerably with gaming her.


If you feel the NEED to move around, you will fail.


Concentration and focusing ONLY on here and now while chatting up that stunner helps a lot with maintaining that calm posture.


The moment you start worrying what to say, or worrying of that awkward silence, then these things contribute to breaking that posture to pieces, and you will begin to fidget without even realising.


I also find that gazing into her eyes while concentrating on what she is saying helps a lot with maintaining that solid posture.  Not only that, but it also helps with communication in terms of listening to what she is saying.





Another great challenge would be to place yourself into social situations that would generally be a nerve breaker for many.  For example, keeping absolutely still while standing in a busy tube, maintaining eye contact with those who are around, especially the hot ones.  I’m not saying that you must stare at them until they get freaked out, but look at everyone, and if you were to make eye contact with another, to keep the gaze until they either look away, or if it suddenly turned into a staring contest, to either look to the side, or look up (NEVER looking down!), while keeping that posture solid.


Take a look at those confident guys out there and watch how they move, and how they interact with people.  You will notice the confidence from their body language and the way they interact even before you meet them.


It also helps to reduce the chances of a blowout as if a woman sees you with confidence; you will already have sort of a high value in her eyes before you even open her.


So, try these challenges and leave a comment on the right hand side letting me know how you get along!


And I promise you that you WILL see results once you demonstrate that confident posture when chatting up a hottie!


Jordan

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