Hey Guys, You might have noticed the blog going a bit more Zen in the last few posts. I am finding that my attention and focus is being drawn towards this more and more with the massive increase in results that are coming with it. Spirituality and Zen are not some far out concepts, they are just viewed like it by some people who are still stuck in the socially conditioned matrix that is society and as we are all in the PUA Community I know for a fact that you are either not like that or are becoming a lot less like that.

Russell Brand talks alot about spirituality and enlightenment and he is one of the best naturals I have ever had the pleasure of meeting, even without his fame he could out game 99% of the worlds puas’ ,definitely someone that offers lots of value!

Have you ever noticed that some people feel totally at ease with themselves and their surroundings? You talk to them and everything just flows, they aren’t frame controlling you or running material but because they feel so at ease with themselves you can’t help but respond positively to them. The smallest mannerisms, a cheeky smile, the way they walk, or just when they drink from their glass with such self-esteem you can’t help but think that his is the man!

Have you been in the community for a while, yet still are having trouble “locking down” you inner game? Despite opening hundreds and hundreds of sets and reading all the material under the sun are you still regularly having those off nights? This is not a sales pitch, read on, all the content in this blog is completely free and is used for my own documentational benefit as much as it providing a means of sharing my thoughts and ideas with you. For me I never had that naturally attractive calmness coming into the community, I always had that little bit of worry what people thought about me, for me the community really has been about completely transforming myself into the person I used to be, before I got messed up. This is why I actually approach whilst running a bootcamp, I am putting myself in these high pressure situations every week to demonstrate to you how it should be done and for ME so I can keep growing, I’m never going to stop approaching and have massive respect for instructors that do teach infield week in week out.

Not many people do transform though, in fact it is pretty rare, from my experience i’d guess as low as 10%. A lot of the instructors you see on the different pickup websites are either “Very Good Looking” or “Were Naturals To Begin With”. I’m not saying that you can’t learn from naturals because I do everyday, most of my friends are naturals, our abundance mindsets mean we can all trust each other implicitly and just hangout without having to worry about “doing our sets” or maintaining ego. But natural’s don’t really understand what it takes to change and will often just parrot talk some phrases that have been passed down. I am not saying these things because I’m on an insane power trip or to put you off learning this stuff, I’m trying to kick start you into action for you.

Back to the topic of “Filling yourself up with positive energy” Do you think it is “normal” to have to do warm up sets or to need positive reactions in order to feel comfortable with yourself and at ease in your environment? I used to think this was the case and that I’d always need to do my Three Warm Up Sets and that when I wake up the following morning I’d be back to square one all over again. I started to noticed a couple of my friends though who didn’t need to do their”warm up sets”, they were always full of positive energy and never feeling unsure or anxious, they’d just roll up and be real instantly. Obviously they had this coming into the community already but none the less they still had it and I wanted to find out how I could get a piece of it for myself.

In this two part post below you will find some key concepts that will help you get this for yourself. Now I’m well aware that this is pretty dense material and it is not in the format of “10 Funky Steps to get a girlfriend”. If you are struggling with this I completely understand, read some old blog posts or maybe consider taking a bootcamp which will give you that core foundation and everything really you will ever need to get you on your path to being you and MASS Success with women, however if you are still with me then great Lets Read On!

Women are very intuitive and if you are approaching them with en resolved issues then they will run the other way. Violence or negativity come from the past where you were hurt, you can mask over these deep routed feelings with a few routines but you will never manage to keep the girl, adventually she will find out and she will run off. If you have been violent in the past or have a history of aggression I recommend you get in touch with a specialist, a “therapist or psychiatrist”, use the sessions to look at why you have these feelings and as soon as you find out why, accept it and move on, you don’t need to stay in counseling long-term in my opinion. Only by feeling good about yourself will you be able to project a positive image that will attract women. A clear conscious is a powerful thing, carrying guilt, however deep you bury it will hinder your progress.

Be loving in all of your relationships, this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a bunch of one night standards but love everything about the girl and the moment you are sharing together. Love means seeing the person for who they are and truly appreciating the positive qualities of the girl. Don’t manipulate people or trick girls into bed, having sex should mean that you are both enjoying it and it’s not all about you.

Being honest is another huge thing which helps to fill you up with positive energy. Be honest in all of your relationships, this includes letting people know who you really are and not putting on a front. There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself which is actually a very good thing to do, you can put your best foot forward. Be a good person and you will have no worry about being honest about who you are and have total confidence all the time that you are a giver of value. I learnt this from staying with monks in Thailand for a week, I asked one of the monks I was living with, (who had that look about him that he would never get pissed off and shout: Bloody Hell!) “Do you never care what anybody else thinks of you?” and the reply was simple “If I only do good, why would I ever care what anybody thinks of me, that and I’m meeting people all the time too.” Strip away those negative feelings that hide the true you and allow your positive self to shine through, this is what is happening when you see natural guys getting loads of attraction and you don’t know why.

PART TWO

Take care of yourself, from this moment on realise that everything you do in your life counts.  Literally everyway that you live your life counts to building self-esteem and harnessing that positive energy that is so attractive to everybody.  If you can’t afford to join the gym “which is only £45 per month usually” then get some dumbells and a pull up bar which can go above your door and these alone shoud allow you to target all your muscle groups affectively. 

Watch what you eat, checkout my definitive post on the Acid Alkaline Diet , this is literally how im living my life at the moment and getting your PH Balance just above neutral will lead to you seeing a massive change in your energy and how you feel if you just do it for two weeks!  Also checkout my post on the Optimum Sarging Nutrition Guide which breaks down what foods give you slow and fast releasing energy and how you can harness these throughout your day.

Enforcing your boundaries outside of pickup will help speed up that time transition time that some of you might be going through.  As you are taking on these new high value behaviours you will get Frame Snap Backs which means you revert back to your old personality every so often and you don’t fully believe that the new you is real yet.  I hate to say this but you really can’t be a push over in your everyday life and then when you go out “Sarging” you become Mr. Charisma man who doesn’t take rubbish from anybody.  You have to think long-term, how will you keep a high self-esteem, attractive, interesting girl after your sarge?  You must have a boundaries on what behaviour you do and don’t accept and enforce these everyday outside of “pick up”. 

In my current London Pad I used to have a couple that lived below me, a  hot Australian blonde and a Natural Mexican Guy, they both worked bar jobs and came home late and played loud music when they got home.  I asked several times for them not to play music after 11pm but they still continued so I had three options:-

1. Move Out

2. Try to ignore it

3. Change my approach

If I had moved out or accepted defeat how could I ever approach a girl in a nightclub and know I was the man to the core and could take care of her if I wanted to?  I knew I would always have that you didn’t step up nagging feeling in the back of my mind and also what happens when you don’t take “Right Action”?  You lose SELF ESTEEM.  So my only choice was to threaten them with the police and actually be willing to follow through with that action,  it turned out I didn’t need to call the police and they actually went quiet and then moved out a couple months later.  What does this have to do with energy?  This is Energy!  I’ve stuck up for myself and taken right action so in the future I will be able to trust myself to step up again, and with that comes core confidence.

Why are you trying to tell me how to live my life Kingy?  I am not preaching, it all ties in with the concept of Karma.  Karma means action.  Every action has a reaction.  Every cause has an effect.  Punch someone and they might punch you back.  Hug them and they might hug you back.  Show someone what you appreciate about them, and they will start to appreciate you.  Use energy and you will get more energy back

peace and love,

kingy

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