BUT, you’ll get feck all if you do NOT follow the following: ***BE CONFIDENT*** Without confidence, you may have the best looking face in the World and have a sexy height, but you may as well be walking around looking like an oompa loompa. ***SEXUAL AGGRESSION*** Once attraction is there, you must be confident enough to touch her….let her know how you feel about her…..what you want to do to that body of hers…..if you are scared to do this, you may as well be a Gay guy telling a girl trying to hit you to feck off as you’re not interested in them… ***EGO*** If you rely on your Ego, then two things will happen: You’ll be afraid to escalate since you are now relying on her reactions to your looks, so now if you try to escalate, you’ll be afraid of screwing up. Fear of approaching. You’ll be relying to much of girls opening you or giving you enough signals. Sorry to burst the bubble here…..9 and 10’s will bloody RARELY give a model [...]]]>
Good Looking Guy Game
Some tips if you are good looking:
First, be f**king happy you have good genetics! Looks help of course. We’ll be living in denial if we said it does not help…
BUT, you’ll get feck all if you do NOT follow the following:
Without confidence, you may have the best looking face in the World and have a sexy height, but you may as well be walking around looking like an oompa loompa.
Once attraction is there, you must be confident enough to touch her….let her know how you feel about her…..what you want to do to that body of hers…..if you are scared to do this, you may as well be a Gay guy telling a girl trying to hit you to feck off as you’re not interested in them…
If you rely on your Ego, then two things will happen:
You’ll be afraid to escalate since you are now relying on her reactions to your looks, so now if you try to escalate, you’ll be afraid of screwing up.
Fear of approaching. You’ll be relying to much of girls opening you or giving you enough signals. Sorry to burst the bubble here…..9 and 10’s will bloody RARELY give a model guy any IOI….In fact, in my years in game I’ve not seen this happen in front of my model male friends! Average girls yes…..model chicks? No, since they are more connected to emotions as they know they can have what they want.
Want to cure this? Then my friend, get ready to put yourself on the line, and hurt your ego….
Approach girls that DO NOT GIVE YOU IOIs….but those girls on the back burner.
You want to feel the pain us average guys go through in blowouts
Your ego will drop. As it drops it will “punish” you with sadness, depression, feeling that you are not worthy, feelings that you begin to doubt yourself…..Get a grip of yourself during this period and scream into the mirror, “I AM WORTHY! EGO, YOU SON OF A BITCH, I WILL NOT ALLOW YOU TO DESTROY ME! YOU MAKE ME FEEL SAD, AND I’LL HURT YOU MORE! WATCH ME GET BLOWN OUT AGAIN AND AGAIN! AFTER I FALL, I WILL RISE TO THE TOP!”
NAG (natural, authentic game) vs Routines
Healing, healing, healing, this is one word that you will want to focus on and make this word a priority in your life.
So why are routines and fake behaviours so appealing to the typical man?
My journey into the pua community was a typical one. I wasn’t naturally good with women so to get to the level I’m at now, “an ability to pick up and date women of beauty which 99% of men will never date in their lifetimes”, has taken a lot of hard work.
I first came into this community with damaged self-esteem and a ‘small’ ego. I had a few fake behaviours but mostly I was a blank slate and had very little ego. I was fed up of feeling unconfident and lonely, “I wanted a girlfriend and fast!”.
Because I didn’t have much fake behaviour my low self-esteem showed most of the time. I was authentically unconfident. I was desperate to be liked and so would do whatever it would take to become someone who could be good with women. To get attention from women who would give me love and make me feel happy about myself.
The diagram below shows my damaged self-esteem and my relatively small ego, the level I entered into the pick up artist community.
I started to learn game (outer game) when I first joined the PUA community, this is because there was only routine based game available. Essentially with routine based game you learn a script and some high value fake behaviours. You know what to say and how to say it to demonstrate attractive qualities. I’d learn routines, games, behaviours, stories and I got to the stage where I could talk continuously for about 4 hours from learning so much stuff.
The diagram below shows the increase of size in my ego by adopting these fake behaviours. You can see the ego covers my damaged self-esteem more. This is a layer of ego being created around my damaged core.
With ego, routines and fake behaviours there are a few draw backs:-
1. The ego constantly needs evidence to maintain itself. So for the brain to keep rationalising that this ego is real it will need evidence to support this. However many girls you get with it is never enough. You will have to dominate all men and things should always go your way. Rather than being able to relate to people in a real way and have proper connections everything is filtered through “will this enhance my ego / fake identity”
2. It takes a lot of energy to be someone that you aren’t. To keep supporting the ego takes a lot of emotional and physical energy, it is very draining which is often why routine guys will find pick up very tiring and only be able to do it for a few hours. If you study NAG game Natural Authentic Game then you become game so it is something that you are all the time without expending energy.
3. It is impossible to hide yourself completely. There will be gaps in a fake identity and occasionally bursts of damaged self-esteem will shoot out. Women are EXPERTS at sniffing out low self-esteem and as soon as they see this they will then recognise you are being fake and lose attraction. Some routine guys have been fake for so long they can maintain the façade for several dates but there will be a time when the woman does see it. She will find out who you are advent ally this is inevitable.
4. Creating ego will actually make whatever self-esteem you had even worse. Subconsciously you are saying “I suck…. I need to be someone else”. So the damaged self-esteem gets even worse.
I studied routine based game for two years and although I did get laid all of those negative things listed above happened to me. I couldn’t get a relationship and I had less friends than when I started. The only improvement was that in a certain social situation I knew what to say and I could get a few dates until she discovered who I really was under the ego and then she’d not see me again.
The issue was, rather than fixing and healing the reason for my low confidence I tried to hide my low confidence with routines and ego. This is the quick fix, the short path, but as everyone knows who watches Starwars “The quick path leads to the dark side”. So my confidence actually got worse.
After a while though I knew that I still wasn’t where I wanted to be. I wanted to be loved by a beautiful woman for me. I searched for help but I soon discovered that no one was actually teaching how to heal confidence, probably because no one actually knew. Even “natural” game was centered around fake behaviours. However rather than full scripts, students would just learn sound bites and escalation moves. At the core it still involved taking on a guru’s identity rather than being authentic.
“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” – Bruce Lee
I started to read books and seek out professionals in the healing industries. I learnt from the BEST, literally healers in the top of their fields. I lived with monks in Thailand, learning self-love and stayed at a healing clinic in California run by a man who has healed thousands and thousands of people from all diseases just by getting them to alkalise and eat fruit.
I really had to research to find these people and seek out this information because there are not big marketing budgets for healing companies. WHY? Because there is not much profit in it. What would be more profitable for me running a pick up company?
1. Release new yearly routine based game products “Attraction Bullets V2”, “Rapid Emotional Escalation DVD sets”
2. Teaching students self-acceptance, healing and the pillars of being attractive. Concepts which will stay with the student forever and make him independent.
The routine products are much more profitable because the student is always needing the next one. For the ego to maintain this fake identity it always needs more lines, more behaviours and evidence so there would be a high demand to keep putting out routine based products….. But how could I live with myself?
I personally won’t sell out, my morals won’t let me and I believe in Karma. I will make an honest living that helps make the world a better place. Don’t get me wrong, PUA Method is doing very well and Bootcamps sell out most months. In fact it hasn’t been better….. however it would be easier to just release some products where there are no overheads or time constraints. Just simple, create, package and sell. But I’m in this to help as many people as possible and the only way is the RIGHT way.
Back to healing, you will notice that ALL of the greats have healed themselves. Jesus, Buddha, Krishna all went through the most extreme of healing processes “water fasting”. Drinking water for 30 days will allow the body to properly detox itself physically. Also when food is removed emotions will come up and the mind will become very clear. Any form of detox will involve you having to face everything about yourself that scares you and during this process of self-acceptance these things will be let go from the body.
I’m not recommending a water fast….. a juice fast or fruit fast is very beneficial however the key is self-acceptance. PUA Method teaches a three step process for healing
Identify -> Accept -> Communicate
This healing process actually gets taught and used during bootcamp during the opening phase. Students are made to be completely honest about how they are feeling and tell the girl during the approach. This not only gets a BETTER response than being fake but also it starts the long-term healing process. Often the student isn’t even aware that the healing process is now taking place but it is happening through the power of self-acceptance. This is why students that leave the PUA Method bootcamp experience HIGH levels of confidence permanently. Typically after a self-help event students will experience a boost in confidence for just for a few days, this is only an ego boost. True healing creates permanent improvements in confidence that last long after the bootcamp has finished.
It is out of the scope of this post to highlight every technique and process for healing confidence. It is also something that you can read but not do anything about. It is best to get someone else to start this healing process for you rather than reading about it. Reading about things is great but it is important to IMPLEMENT what you have read which can be hard when you are on your own.
Something to note, during the healing process you might notice your overall confidence go down. This is a good sign because it means that your ego is getting smaller. Your confidence will not be large and healed yet and your ego will be getting smaller as you head more into the direction of the NOW and removal of mind constructs. This will mean that you feel less confidence but it is temporary and will not last. It is a necessary phase for you to go through to realise true confidence and attractiveness.
You will also enter a phase of questioning who you are and maybe even have feelings of fear rise up. These are all good signs, because you are letting go of negative things. It is important to keep moving forward and take the time to heal yourself completely. When you arrive at a stage of complete healing then you become GAME you are authentically attractive always you will get your NAG on.
As you continue to heal yourself and simultaneously do new and cool things you will develop strong self-esteem and only have little bits of ego and insecurities. These little bits of ego aren’t important and if you are a Jedi you will continue on this path until you have reached the phase where you are happy. Generally you want to have NAG (natural authentic game) and to have picked up several truly beautiful women and have them as your girlfriend for a period of time. At this stage you will KNOW that you are enough as you are and have enough reference experience to have belief in yourself.
It is vital to gather this reference experience because for you to create a belief that you are enough for beautiful women you must have achieved it several times before. This is a belief which is linked to an action. Just like you believe that you can make a salad it becomes the same with women. You don’t think yourself special because you can make a salad but you know deep down that this is something that you can do and you have confidence. I truly believe that I can pick up beautiful women by being myself and they will fall in love with me. I’m not special or better than anyone else but this is a belief that I have about myself from doing over four years of authentic cold approach pick up.
It is vital to go the NAG route and heal your confidence first, rather than building layers of fake game over the top of it. Aim for this stage, cultivate self-acceptance and self –love and you will truly get this part of your life handled forever.
Long ass post!
I hope you enjoyed it and it resonated with you. I sometimes hold back from posting detailed posts because the most important thing is to approach, approach, approach as Jordan says. However this concept is too important not to cover and something which cost me several years of my development by going the fake route first.
Go natural, authentic, love yourself and love women.
Peace n Love,
There are many ways to build attraction in your conversations with women. Here is what I found to be most effective. - Lead It is important to be leading the conversation and not be waiting on the woman to tell you when or what you should be talking about. A beta male waits until he is told what to do. An alpha male is confident in his ability and trusts his instincts. This is why you must take the lead otherwise your chances drop dramatically. Take things to where you want it to go. A girl isn’t going to make all the moves for you. - Tease Have you ever been talking to a woman and the conversation has suddenly dried up? Then you haven’t been demonstrating your fun and playful side. By teasing a girl it helps pump the girls buying [...]]]>
In your interactions with women it is important to build attraction, otherwise the girl will reject your sexual advances. You must practice the ability to think quickly for your interactions to be effective while maintaining a confident composure. To do this, we must assess the main components of attraction in order to make that memorable first impression when out in the field.
So how do we build attraction?
There are many ways to build attraction in your conversations with women. Here is what I found to be most effective.
It is important to be leading the conversation and not be waiting on the woman to tell you when or what you should be talking about. A beta male waits until he is told what to do. An alpha male is confident in his ability and trusts his instincts. This is why you must take the lead otherwise your chances drop dramatically. Take things to where you want it to go. A girl isn’t going to make all the moves for you.
Have you ever been talking to a woman and the conversation has suddenly dried up? Then you haven’t been demonstrating your fun and playful side. By teasing a girl it helps pump the girls buying temperature, making her horny and more likely to fuck. Teasing a girl is attractive instead of supplicating like every other guy usually does. Using push and pull techniques help create this effect, an example would be “I like you, you’re trouble”. It throws the girl off keeps her excited and wanting more.
- Don’t compliment
Its common for women to receive lots of compliments from average guys. They know they are hot and don’t need to be told. It conveys neediness and inexperience. Do you think a guy who is banging 9s and 10s is complimenting every girl he comes across? Its okay to compliment ONCE in the opener from a direct approach as it shows confidence. But after you must demonstrate that her personality is the deciding factor. Do this by getting to know the girl and showing genuine interest in her and then complimenting her for things she has actually achieved, not just her looks.
- Statements not questions
Ask questions that give the girl something to work with. An example would be “You’re not from round here are you?” instead of “where are you from?”. You want to avoid any interview style questions as they are boring and off putting. An open ended question will allow the conversation more smoothly and increases the chances of the girl opening up. Keep making statements until you receive big IOIs (playing with hair, legs crossed, touching self e.t.c) before you go for the close. This will prevent the number of flakes and therefore increase your conversion rate.
- Emotions not logic
Women are emotional creatures and are not logical in the way men are. Its important to talk about passions rather than typical everyday chores. Getting a girl into an emotional mood increases your chance of laying her dramatically, you want to avoid logic at all costs. By bringing up her emotions it will turn her on mentally as you have illustrated the attractive qualities that women look for when choosing a mate. Its common for men to have very closed ended conversations when discussing the football down at the pub. “What was the score?” “2-1″ ”Want another drink?” ”Sure”. This is the very conversation you want to be avoiding. Ask a woman how something makes her feel, an example would be if she got into an argument with someone. In this case you would want to explore the emotions with her, an example would be “…and then she said that if I didnt that she wouldnt call him” “Aww thats terrible! How does that make you feel? I know I wouldnt be happy.” See the difference in the two, the later has more emotion.
Hope that has cleared things up on the topic of attraction. Remember to stay positive and keep approaching, success is only round the corner. Its up to you to reach out for it and push through the barriers.
Peace and love,
The number one aim that any aspiring ladies’ man should focus on is to become natural and authentic with women. A major benefit to being Natural and Authentic during the approach is that women will trust you. Most men don’t get blown off because they aren’t good looking enough or they aren’t tall enough. They will get blown off for not being authentic when approaching the woman.
A bad example of an approach: “You are really beautiful, I like your shoes” The woman will sense that this is a line and not honest.
Also the same applies if you use a scripted pick up line but on the inside you are feeling nervous. The woman will sense that what you are saying and how you are feeling are not in an alignment and so brush the man off. It is fake behaviour and so, unattractive.
Instead you want to be honest and follow our three step process
IAC = Identify – Accept – Communicate
Identify = Notice how you are feeling
Accept = Say to yourself “I’m feeling X and I accept that”
Communicate = Tell the girl you are approaching how you are feeling.
A good example: “Hey I’m feeling a bit nervous, I don’t normally do this but I think you are cute and so I had to come over and say Hi!”
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It is a lot more attractive to be authentic about how you are feeling than to try and fake it. The main reasons for this are:-
1. The woman will trust you and like you more because you are being real. Most men are complete phoneys when approaching women, bragging about their car or trying to buy her a drink. Women don’t want this, they want someone cool and real.
2. By communicating any negative energy or emotion that you might be feeling, you will actually let go of it. There is a saying “What you resist will persist”. Ignoring an emotion or pretending it is not there means that it will stay there all night or get worse! By accepting it and communicating it, you will start the releasing process which means for the rest of the night you will get more confident.
3. In the long-term, by communicating how you feel, these emotions will return less and less. Until they disappear for good and so you always feel confident approaching women. You must accept and communicate them first to build these solid foundations of confidence though.
4. Being authentic communicates high value. Imagine the hottest girl in your school. She could do anything and everyone loved her. She could be angry, sad, stressed… it wouldn’t matter because she was the hottest girl in school, everyone loved her! This girl will have no trouble expressing her emotions and will have high self-esteem. By being authentic, hot women will get the same feeling that you were the most popular guy in school! Most men try to cover up how they are feeling and act tough. The issue with this is that women smell un-authenticity a mile away!
5. Being authentic will build your confidence in the long run. Each success you get, each beautiful woman you date, your confidence will improve because you were being YOU. Over time you will start to realise that you do deserve hot women and your confidence will reach unbelievably high levels!
6. Have you ever got a woman’s number only for her not to reply to your txt messages? By being authentic you will notice that the numbers that you get will be a lot more solid. When using scripted pick-up lines you will notice that your flake rate will increase due to not being real.
7. We are only human! Women don’t want a super hero, they just want a cool, normal guy. Women have bad days and get negative emotions just like we do! They will give you loads more points for being authentic than being fake. I have picked up hundreds of times being stressed, angry or nervous. I have a couple minutes of nervous conversation, the emotion then goes and I get her number or go on a date with her just as normal. I don’t tend to get those emotions anymore but even when I did it didn’t make any difference.
Peace n Love,
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Got a couple videos from the Manchester leg of our UK Tour 2013. We have a ton of quality content coming soon, please forgive the slow down our end. The old format wasn’t working perfectly so I’ve gone back to the drawing board and have now finalised away to get you the content that you are demanding weekly. I can tell you it is going to be wizard rockstar quality and I can’t wait to share it all with you.
Check in with you soon and happy Valentines Day!
Peace n Love,
I LOVE this video,
For me authenticity and truth are so important, I love to watch something REAL! I’m so bored of fake, manufactured rubbish. In the pick up industry fake, rubbish would be presentations or paying women to be around you while you give information. It’s just not real.
Do something proper, have a real connection with someone, have fun, show some infield footage!
What you see in this video is Cieran and I having fun while trying to educate you at the same time. We call this Edutainment.
- Three way make-out
- The end of the world
- Threesome rejections
- The superman
Plus a spontaneous live pick up at the end of the video. In truth the girl wasn’t hot enough for me to want to close. From her body language it is easy to tell that I could’ve closed if I wanted to. I feel truly if I want to close the girl, “she is hot enough and my type” then I 95% of the time will full close her. NAG is a very powerful tool to learn, Natural Authentic Game.
Peace n Love,
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PUA Amateur “Dee” does his first approaches in the pick up artist community.
Dee has done less than 20 cold approaches before in his life which were with non pick up based friends. Dee is open-minded and looking to see what he can learn and how he can improve as a person by doing cold approaches.
Peace n Love,
Covered a REALLY important concept of NAG today!
This is a must watch for all guys in the community especially if you are fairly new!
My best approach is usually my first one of the day. I’m relaxed and it’s exciting to me. Even if I’ve just got out of bed
“Hey it’s early in the morning but I saw you, like your style e.t.c……..
as long as you ground your opener with authenticity it doesn’t matter if you aren’t feeling great.
Momentum is more to do with your successes breading a positive belief within you. For example you have sex with a hot girl you then start to believe you can do it again.
You want to be authentic and honest as possible on the approach and just go for it. You don’t need to be chatty or fun. Because you can say: (another example)
“Hey I’m not feeling very social today because I’ve been at the office but I saw you and think your absolutely fucking gorgeous and I had to come over and say hi”
perfect little opener, the girl will believe it’s genuine and your in conversation just like normal.
Peace n Love,
Checkout a few video highlights of this years Rome Bootcamp.
This year it was run by Jordan and the students got MASSIVE results. Jordan also demonstrated a three-way makeout with two Italian girls right in front of the students eyes!!