Hey man,


I’ve had a crazy last week! PR events and functions demand that I speak in front of big audiences, so I’ve been doing a lot more public speaking recently. In the past I’ve tended to shy away from these type of things because I don’t like to get recognised too much when I’m teaching. I LOVE to teach infield so it would add pressure if I was to get recognised all the time, especially because I sarge popular venues.


“There’s Kingy! Lets follow him around and watch his every move!”.


I’m happy to do more PR stuff now as long as I can continue to teach infield. To my suprise public speaking and being good at pick up have very little in common. Being able to communicate well with charisma is an obvious similarity but that is where it ends. What I’ve learnt is that it is all about getting used to large numbers, as soon as you have done that, you will reeeeellllaaaxxxxx!


I’m always talking to ten people at a time (including other instructors), because I’ve taught five years of bootcamp every weekend. What I found suprising was the extra anxiety that I got from doing a gig which increased that slightly to thirty people. You would think that ten to thirty wouldn’t make much difference.


Everything is in the mind, if you have fairly nervous genetics (I have worse than most) then any new environment will be a shock and scary. This means that it is easy for the fight or flight response to get triggered. When this gets triggered you will go into survival mode…. this is NOT a relaxing experience! Adrenaline will pump around your body and you will be ready for combat! It is important to stop this before it gets triggered rather than damage limitation.





When you increase your comfort zone, it can feel like hard work, however when it has been increased you will see the benefits. Last week I spoke to an audience of two hundred people about natural pick up. If I hadn’t put in the hard work of increasing my public speaking comfort zone, then it would’ve been very difficult. You always want to be thinking, what do I want? Then start to increase your comfort zone towards that so you will feel relaxed doing it.


Below is a lush value video from last weekends bootcamp. I haven’t been filming the bootcamps for a while so thought it would be a good oppertunity to get a bit of footage for you. I love teaching, rewarding, hard work, but extreme fun too!


The students got a load of numbers, some instant date options (but chose to stay with the instructors), plus one student went on an instant date with a HOT blonde whilst I was doing the wireless mic work with him. He took her to a bar, had several drinks with her and could’ve taken her home but he wanted to continue with the bootcamp because he was having too much fun! That is a compliment because her looks were on the level of a model, even to me.





There are many people out there with bad intentions who are completely confident. Delusionaly confident, think narcissism on a different level. Men for whatever reason who have missed out on empathy.


The irony of self development is that it teaches you that you are not enough already. However this is false because self development is not about becoming a new person but instead your self discovery, finding out who you already are and self acceptance.


Be confident because you are taking action NOW don’t wait to reach a future goal which will never come. Be Confident.


Men who have no empathy, which means they don’t care for others feelings, will always be confident. They are missing a certain circuit in their brain which regulates if they are making someone else feel unhappy or not. I’m sure you’ve all seen the manipulative guy at the bus stop with the hot woman. He doesn’t care how she feels and also knows what buttons to push on the woman. This not caring appears to her as confidence.


Some might argue that this is the “survival of the fittest”……. he is simply, surviving and replicating……. I would call this a social loop hole though.


My point is that you shouldn’t wait to become a perfectly enlightened person before feeling that you can be confident. Be confident now for the fact that you are on your journey of self discovery in the first place.


“I still can’t get over the frustration, the guilt and empathy I have for everyone. There’s good in all of us and I think I simply love people too much, so much that it makes me feel too fucking sad. The sad little sensitive, unappreciative, Pisces, Jesus man. Why don’t you just enjoy it? I don’t know!” - Kurt Cobain





Kurt like many musicians I imagine was very sensitive to feelings and the emotions of others. He managed to make a great legacy by expressing himself authentically through his music. His personal life was always troubled though, with reports that he was shy, unconfident and depressed.


Don’t place unrealistic expectations on yourself. Be confident now, women want to meet you, they want to have sex with you. Do these women a favour!


Women mostly run on emotions and their biological desires….. unless she is into meditation or yoga. Most women will find the guy that doesn’t give a shit about them confident and attractive. The man that lacks empathy is like a woman with fake tits, she looks nice, but there is no actual substance to the attraction. It is an illusion. Believe in yourself and she will too.


Don’t wait, approach with full confidence, the reality you make is in your mind so grasp it today! Be confident because you do have empathy for others, that is why you are special.


If you think you can then you are probably right, if you think you can’t then you are also probably right.


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Anyways I’m off to get a bit of food. Last Wednesday I just came off another 21 days of fruit only so I’m slowly finding my way back to cooked food again. There only reason I stopped the fruit only detox was for a public speaking event and I was carrying a little bit of detox symptoms so had to stop it.


That is for another post though!


Catch you laters,


Peace n Love,


Kingy

Howdy!!


If you want to be authentic, direct and natural in your pick up then meditation is a FANTASTIC tool!


You want to become a Jedi of Pick Up.





Natural vs Routine pua game comes down to this. Do you want to learn to approach feeling entitled by being yourself or feeling entitled because you have learnt lines?


Long-term – If you want to be a cool guy, have lots of friends, great relationships with everyone, women like you for you and your RESULTS are better than anyone you know, then natural is the way to go.


If you want to become a frame control guy, has trouble making friends, have difficulty maintaining relationships, can only get results when things are going your way, attract low self-esteem women, then routine pick up is the way to go.


Natural game for the win and meditation is the tool to give yourself access to your inner awareness. With meditation you will be able to tell when you are entering into a bad state and then correct it. In the past I’d become sad or depressed and I had no idea why. I probably didn’t even think about it back then and instead just thought “I’m depressed” or “I’m sad”. When you meditate you will become aware of your thought patterns which can trigger a lower conscious state. Consciousness is not some spiritual mumbo but instead, simply, the level of joy you are in at the moment.


Guilt -> Resentment -> Anger -> Pride -> Acceptance -> Purpose -> Love -> Joy


By knowing this and understanding yourself enables you to be able to keep yourself in a high state. I mostly function around the Purpose and Love mark and jump up to Joy but I can drop down to resentment if something really bad happens. In a night club it would have to be something that annoys me to the core, generally I’m happy and positive. If something does drop me down, then because of meditation, I’m able to quickly recognise this and work my way up the levels again.


“The hottest woman in the club just blew me out” -> “Damm it, this isn’t going how I want” -> *BY PASS PRIDE* -> “Oh well it is what it is” -> “Lets start hitting up the approaches again for practice anyway” -> “I Love you second hottest girl ” – “I love you too ”


This is similar to the thought processes I have cultivated in my brain. Now if I get dropped down to that lower level I’m quickly able to recognise it and then get back to where I was before.


Do you see the benefits of being able to do this? Being angry but trying to pretend to be confident and happy is very fake and women can always tell. This is often the main reason for blowouts. I mentioned in a previous post that blowouts have very little to do with your value but instead that you just weren’t authentic enough. She wants to know that you are being real with her or as we also call it, NATURAL!


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On PUA Method Bootcamp we regularly meditate with the students. The students do approaches, work on their game, then we do some meditation and press the emotional reset button! After the meditation we hit up the girls again. Push the body and get as much growth as possible and then EMOTIONAL RESET!


The brain is just like any muscle in the body. In fact the whole of your body is made up only of two fluids (blood and lymph) plus cells. That is it! So train your mind to be focused and clear through meditation. This is the path of a PICK UP JEDI, clean foods (raw ideally), meditation, positive thinking and an abundance of pick up skills and techniques.





On Bootcamp we don’t just teach innergame but we will give you a TON of outergame too. Our ideal is for you to “Get Confident and Become a Master Pick Up Artist”, this is our goal. So ideally we want you to be as natural and authentic approaching as possible because this will allow you to start to believe in yourself. That being the case, if you are running out of things to say, or feel you need a little more attraction material then we will give you it.


I’ve trained in routine pick up for years and I know every trick in the book. What you might notice about learning a routine though is that when you learn a routine with a strong natural game foundation it transforms from an attraction spike to an attraction A-BOMB! It goes Nuclear and you get lots more attraction from it because of the solid foundation. You must develop the solid foundation first though for it to sit on.


Anyway guys I’m out, remember to do your daily meditation, twenty minutes a day is a good starting point!


Talk to you again soon,


Peace n Love,


Kingy

Howdy!


So I wanted to share a new video I’ve recorded on pua calibration and making the little tweaks to your game. A lot of guys come into this pua community thinking that they are very far from being able to get great success at this. This is often NOT the case. Being attractive is best described as a bar chart of monthly progress with an attractiveness threshold line at the top.



Everything counts in making you a more attractive man. Learning pick up skills, confidence, humour, positivity, good clothes, working out, a tan, social proof e.t.c. this all counts! However you can also dive into each core part of being attractive and make those little tweaks. This is about marketing, but marketing yourself! Who are you? What type of girls do you like? Where do these girls hang out? Where are you strongest? Where can you improve?


Once you have identified those points take a minute to write down a few things which you can tweak. New shirt? Jewellery? Shoes? Working out? Meditation? e.t.c Identify a weak point and then attack it with full force. If you are really good looking then maybe you can get away with having poor verbal skills or lower confidence one night. Your attractiveness rating will still be higher than the threshold point. The same applies if you usually go out clubbing with women you will probably notice that you are more attractive than when you are on a ‘lads night out’.


Everything counts!! When you reach a level of attractiveness that passes the overall threshold most women will find you sexually attractive. The real trick is to develop core attractiveness allowing you to be attractive all of the time. You don’t want to rely on having women around or being known in a certain venue. These are great techniques and useful tools in the tool box Instead though you will want to tweak the parts which you always or mostly have access too. “Confidence, humour, clothes, positivity, working out” e.t.c. This will mean that you can walk through your life being an attractive man and when you see that woman on the street or sitting on the bus that you desire, you are equipped and ready to go! You know that you are attractive and have a good chance to get her if she is single.





Jordan is a great example of this attractiveness threshold. On bootcamp he talks about his story and where he came from. Jordan was a virgin getting into pua and it took him ONE YEAR before he managed to get a phone number close. He didn’t take any bootcamp and went out by himself approaching women, five to seven days per week. Jordan was bullied massively at school and had a lot of unattractive behaviours that would be unconsciously demonstrated to the woman when he’d approach her.


Jordan didn’t give up though and finally got a break through, his first number close after one year. During this year Jordan had slowly been working on his fashion, social skills, learning what to say and from all of the approaches his confidence had grown. Nine months after his first number close, he started consistantly getting dates and then he lost his virginity to a PROFESSIONAL MODEL, a girl most men would rate a 9 or 10.


What happened? We’ll eventually Jordan managed to reach the attractiveness threshold and went from a place of having ZERO women in his life to having lots of women being interested in him. It really makes very little difference on how hot the women is either. Game is game and attraction is not a choice. All women want an attractive man. In all my years of going out I have not ever managed to get a sympathy shag or have I heard of anyone getting this. There is no choice but to step up!


There is very little in between when developing this natural pick up artist skill set. You are either sexually attractive to women or you aren’t. True some women want a provider guy to take care of them. Also you can have a good night where you feel more confident than usual or you are out with women, or even on your birthday you might get results. What I’m talking about however is being able to consistently attract and close women. This comes from making those tweaks and eventually you will reach that abundance level!!


So a great belief to take out with you to the night game or the street is “Full abundance with women and dating is often only a few tweaks away”. So when you are out and things aren’t going well, think to yourself, what can I do now to enjoy myself more?


If you are new I recommend that you checkout these videos if you haven’t already.


And…..



PUA Method Bootcamp is a way for you to fast track your progress and literally shave years off of your natural learning curve.


We have been doing back to back bootcamps over the last few months at FULL capacity. I love teaching, it is my playtime. Most of the week I’m focusing on the company. My weekdays are usually 12 hour days. I wake up at 10am and I don’t stop working until 10pm plus I’ll do 30 approaches everyday to keep my skill set tight for the weekend. My work ethic is scary. Even my mum who is very much a pro hard worker tells me to take breaks and not work so hard. I love PUA so much, to me it is not work, it is my passion.


So when Bootcamp comes round each weekend it is my chance to let off some steam! The bootcamp is the most refined process that it can possibly be. Over the last five years we have tweaked the bootcamp in every area. Our main goal is to get the best possible student results over the weekend. Everyone that we help transform is an individual but because the instructors have seen over a thousand students we have seen every stereotype before. Whatever specific sticking point or belief you have about yourself that prevents you from being phenomenal with women we have SEEN IT before!


It is 100% necessary to get your skills with women down in my opinion. I mean what is the alternative? Making do with some woman who you aren’t that attracted to or that you argue with? Finding a women who is ready to settle down and be the beta guy to look after her kids all the while she is probably out with some alpha guy who makes her excited.


There is no option! Life is short.


I see guys living their lives through fear. Caring what the girl thinks, living a life of scarcity. “I hope that girl likes me”, “If only this one girl would date me”. Instead of living a life of complete abundance and enjoying something so inherent and simple as being good with women.


Speak Soon,


Peace n Love,


Kingy


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Hey Man,


I love this video! Meditation is the BEST tool for a PUA or Pick Up Artist and this is exactly what it will give you tonight.





Benefits
- Stops the mind
- Prevents negative emotional and physical responses getting triggered
- Your eye contact becomes really strong
- You restore to your default state of happiness, fear, frustration, anger all leaves the body
- your ego disappears,
- you realise that you aren’t what you have been identifying with in your mind
- AA goes because no fear is in you.


On a subconscious level when you notice how happy you are just sitting in silence you realise nothing matters. You don’t NEED anything to be happy other than yourself. You become completely non NEEDY and so this leads to you not needing to seek approval. Very few guys have a non-approval seeking approach when they go out.


How you feel she will feel. Your main aim is to work on letting yourself feel good and your default state is to be happy. If you feel happy, calm, horny she will also feel those emotions too because of the transfer.


Fear will rise up and it is your job to become aware of it and let it go.


How do you do Long Meditation Sessions?


Find somewhere quiet and neutral. If possible buy a meditation cushion but it is not required! Then you will want to sit cross legged if you can’t do full lotus position. I recommend on the bed if your cross legged because the mattress is the best prevention for dead leg. Do not fidget at all but if it is starting to hurt you then re-adjust yourself and continue.


When you go out the most important thing is that you start talking immediately. Being in the zone is great but if you aren’t talkative and your just standing in the corner no one is noticing. So get active, start approaching everything and also keep that internal feeling of acceptance.





Cieran did the 10 day Vispasana meditation retreat where he just sits in meditation for 10 days. Cieran is pure natural but also ultra-sexual. His extraction technique is “if you want to go home and fuck we can do that”.


The retreat had mixed classes and Cieran was just getting horny all day looking at the women. His brain told him, “Go over there and pick her up and fuck her in the bathroom”. He resisted the urge to flirt.

Then his brain tried to reason with him “just go in the bathroom and masterbate, no one will know”. Sweat pouring off. But he battled through it and managed the 10 days meditating and no masturbation.


Is he cured of sex? If being cured of sex means you have a renewed interest in it then it was a resounding success! However this time he doesn’t NEED sex. He approaches horny and authentic but he knows he doesn’t need to have success to feel happy or for him to realise who he is. He just wants it. This is ULTRA Attractive and at the core of natural game.


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Jordan, Cieran, Majik and Kingy all teach on all PUA Method Bootcamps. We teach authentic natural game which will get you the BEST results and also build the most confidence in you. Whenever you get success on the bootcamp it is because of YOU and not some bunch of silly lines that you have learnt.


The PUA Method Bootcamp is held over three days to give you as much immersion as possible. I’ve tested the two day bootcamp format in the past and it just wasnt enough. The student growth is MASSIVELY larger with three days because it really allows you to live this lifestyle and enternalise the new behaviours quickest. The Bootcamp is more INTENSE and so your growth is SUPER SONIC.


Most of the PUA Method Bootcamp is spent infield where we wing, demo and give you feedback throughout the weekend. What is rare about the PUA Method Instructors is that we all actually do this INFIELD with you. We get up close and personal, holding your hand through the whole experience. You leave with a solid understanding of what a guy who is great with women looks like and we get to hear your approaches and give you DETAILED feedback.


The Residential Course is our PREMIUM training package which is all 1-1 training and infield. However the Bootcamp is the next best thing and will provide you with a solid foundation. We all teach pick up full-time and this is a professional level resource. The reviews speak for themselves and by reading them you will see we are legit and LOVE what we do. Sign up and get your life with women and dating handled forever!


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Anyway I’m off out, lots more work to be done and also have a 1-1 training tonight which I’m really looking forward too! It’s going to be epic fun of dreams


Laters!


Peace n love,


Kingy


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According to Jack Nicholson, “If men are honest, everything they do and everywhere they go is for a chance to see women”. Mr Nicholson may be exaggerating, but it’s fair to say we guys love to have sex. Sometimes though, it can bring some unwanted stress into our lives. So if you want to know how to get great oral, improve your performance and avoid a penis fracture, enjoy the vid, read on.


How to last longer
Sex is not a marathon, but it’s not a sprint either. The last thing you want when you’re lying in a blissful, post-coital state, is for her to ask, “Was that it?”. If you want to become the king of duration try these sex tricks. Firstly, get her to go on top. Not only is it great to see your girl from another angle, when she is on top your penis is less stimulated. Ask her to go slowly too. Another trick is to get her to tease you. Have her stimulate you until you are close to climaxing. Before you orgasm, ask her to stop. This stop start approach will ensure you last all night long.





How to get more
Women are complex beings. Judging their needs is extremely difficult. There are some signs to look out for though. If your date exposes her wrists or neck, tilts her head forwards, touches her hair repeatedly or holds eye contact with you, it is likely she is giving you some subtle signs. Once you reach the foreplay stage, the stop and start approach works well. Begin to kiss her neck until her breathing quickens. Then stop. Talk. Then start to kiss her lips. Stop again. Do this five or six times; by the seventh she won’t be able to resist.


Don’t cheat
Although it can be tempting to stray elsewhere (74 per cent of men say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught) men who cheat are more likely to break their penis. Doctors at the University of Maryland found that half of their penile fracture patients received their breakages whilst having affairs. If you didn’t believe in Karma before, I’m sure you do now. To avoid breaking your penis, don’t be too ambitious when choosing a sex position. Make sure your thrusting is gentle and, if your lady is on top, ask her to avoid aggressive movements.





How to get great oral
It’s a sad fact, but 56 per cent of men are dissatisfied with their sex life, and one of the things most men wish they had more of was oral sex. The best way to get more is to give more. Sharing is caring in terms of oral pleasure. Sometimes women won’t give oral because they feel uncomfortable. If this is the case discuss the issue together. Reassure, but don’t pressurise. Finally, you could give her a few guiding tips. Ask her to start off slowly, whilst keeping eye contact. Then suggest to her that she uses her hands to grip the base of your penis whilst her tongue works the tip.





How to improve your performance
We all boast to our friends that we are as good as it gets when it comes to pleasing our partner, but the truth is that 83 per cent of men believe their performance could be improved. Performing certain exercises will improve your performance. Your sexercise regime should involve: push-ups, sit-ups, pelvic tilts, dead-lifts, torso side bends and pull-ups. To update your tired, old sex positions, why not take some inspiration from yoga? Try out the Kundalini Yoga Butterfly, the Cobra and the Modified Wheel Pose.


How to tell when she is faking
It’s one of our biggest fears, but how can we tell when she is faking? One sign we used to rely on was her high-pitched screams and gentle groaning, but chaps, even this is not reliable. Research from the University of Central Lancashire shows that the noise a woman makes in bed does not correspond to her pleasure or her orgasm. So how do we tell when she is having an orgasm? Here are some of the signs: her heart beats faster, her breathing quickens, various muscles tighten, nipples become erect and some women flush red on their upper body.

Who am I?


Not a question people think about too much, but when you really think about it, when you really look at yourself, what you are wearing…. The job you go to 5 days a week, the hobbies you have…. Is that really you? Can you really accept how you are right now? Are you happy the way you are right now? If your answer is no, you can’t accept yourself because you aren’t really the person who you are! You are not your true self.





Most people live the lives that they have stumbled into going to work day dreaming how what their life could be like, going to a night club imagining what it would be like to hook up with that STUNNING girl at the bar. That person you think about is YOU that is the real you, and the only things that is stopping you is yourself. You cannot experience true happiness and spread that happiness to other people until you have accepted yourself.


So what I have done is a VERY brief video of what I think self-acceptance is, what I say is how I feel, what runs through my head, my own thoughts. And to be honest, I have never been happier, I dress how I have always wanted to dress, and now when I see that stunning girl up the bar 5 seconds later I’m talking to her, when I imagine how things would go with her, at the same time, it’s really happening.





I started to believe that that person I’ve always dreamt of being is me! And it really happened, my confidence sky rocketed, because I did not just day dream of that person, I ACCEPTED that person I admired, and it is an AMAZING feeling to be the person who you have always wanted to be.


Anything is possible.


Roj


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Word!!!


Got a new video for you that I recorded today in the London sunshine on The Matrix or as I like to call it, society!


A lot of getting great at pua and getting the women you want comes from stepping outside of society norms. I strongly believe that anything is possible and with hard work and the right tools you can live your dream.


The Pick Up Artist is the enlightened one, he understands The Matrix and the loops holes in society. The Pick Up Artist recognises when people try to manipulate him and he also recognises his own true value and nature. He is at one with his environment and uses his life to live how he wants to live. A free, peaceful and abundant life.





This life is waiting for you soon as you step outside of the Matrix. It is not easy and you will get scared. 99% of your friends will be in the Matrix and try to persuade you to be like them and live the average life. They will do this by putting you down, ignoring your facebook posts or saying you can’t do something.


Just remember one thing……………..


This is your life and your destiny. A world where anything is possible. Where we go from there, is a choice I leave to you.


*Queue The Matrix theme music* “danna, na, danna, na, danna, na, danna”





When Bootcamp comes round each weekend it is a complete DESTRUCTION of The Matrix on a massive scale! The bootcamp is the most refined process that it can possibly be. Over the last five years we have tweaked the bootcamp in every area. Our main goal is to get the best possible student results over the weekend. Everyone that we help transform is an individual but because the instructors have seen over a thousand students we have seen every stereotype before. Whatever specific sticking point or belief you have about yourself that prevents you from being phenomenal with women we have SEEN IT before!


It is 100% necessary to get your skills with women down in my opinion. I mean what is the alternative? Making do with some woman who you aren’t that attracted to or that you argue with? Finding a women who is ready to settle down and be the beta guy to look after her kids all the while she is probably out with some alpha guy who makes her excited.


There is no option! Life is short.


I see guys living their lives through fear. Caring what the girl thinks, living a life of scarcity. “I hope that girl likes me”, “If only this one girl would date me”. Instead of living a life of complete abundance and enjoying something so inherent and simple as being good with women.


Peace n Love,


Kingy


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Word Up!


Another post on how to stop Approach Anxiety. I’ve covered Approach Anxiety a few times now but I find it is the biggest sticking point for the majority of you guys out there. If you have Approach Anxiety then learning fancy outer game or how to get an instant make out is not what you need. What you need is to get comfortable approaching, build the habit of approaching and to feel relaxed while doing it. If you aren’t relaxed then this is probably the main reason why your approaches aren’t going well. Get the basics down first!


1. The game is played in the state of Momentum. You must be going out as much as possible. I recommend you go out anywhere between 3 – 7 times per week, (if you can do 7 then this is the best). Going out twice per week is not enough. You can’t go out two nights per week and then complain on a forum that you aren’t getting the results that you deserve. You MUST commit to this, you can’t be half a pimp, fully go for this with your full force. Nothing will stand in your way of you getting ABUNDANCE with the women that you desire!


If you take a week off, even a couple of days off, your Approach Anxiety will start to come back. You must condition your mind to believe that approaching is normal and also get used to talking to HOT women. When this happens you relax and when you are relaxed magical things will start to happen.


2. Practice doesn’t have to be long. It is not a huge time investment to approach a couple of women a day. This should take about ten to thirty minutes of your time per day, that is if you are used to approaching. If you miss a couple of practice sessions then you might notice your Approach Anxiety comes back and this exercise takes anywhere from one hour to five hours.





I remember when I was first training myself to approach in coffee shops. I was happy with my general level of approaching but because I teach this FULL TIME I wanted to become proficient in all locations. So I set the task of approaching just one woman in a busy coffee shop queue. I hesitated, delayed, built negative momentum and it ended up me taking FOUR HOURS before I actually did one approach. FOUR HOURS! By the time I finally approached a woman on her own it came out like a squeak. It was basically white noise. In effect I had become a DOG WHISTLE! I tell you what though, just the fact that I did the approach was such a fantastic feeling. Frustration increased and increased and when it was finally released it is an awesome moment of progress.


The next day I set myself a similar target, however I’d now approach two women in busy coffee shop queues that day. From leaving the house to approaching two different women in coffee shops took me a total of NINE MINUTES! That is effectively an improvement of seven hours and fifty one minutes! I walked into the coffee shop, entered the queue and chatted up the first woman. I then left the queue without buying anything, waited five minutes and did it again. My brain had a new belief and it was easy for me to STEP UP.


Set yourself approaching targets for the day and then do whatever it takes. No going home until you have completed the mission. When you reach that state of momentum you will notice that this practice can very EASILY fit in with your everyday life and not require much time investment at all.


3. Teach your mind who is boss. When you set yourself a target to approach women your mind will give you one hundred different reasons why approaching is lame. You don’t need to approach, do your business stuff first, Gary got his wife at speed dating, I’ll do it tomorrow, I don’t want to bug women. Your mind is trying to trick you! You must condition your mind to realise that when you say you are going to do something that you are ACTUALLY going to do it. There will be no bargaining or confusion it is going to happen, period. I will approach two women tomorrow, that is the end of it.


When you are just starting out you might have to wrestle with your mind. However when you start doing what you say your going to do your mind will try to trick you less. You will reach a point where your brain knows whatever you say you are going to do is going to happen so it gives up trying to persuade you not to do something. This is where you should be aiming to get to, where you have no negative anchors to approaching and it becomes effortless.





4. Go for what you want. One of the big advantages I have is that I teach on EVERY bootcamp. After personally teaching one thousand students I’d have to be an idiot to not recognise patterns of behaviour. Every one who attends bootcamp is unique but there are also general patterns of behaviour that we follow. One thing I’ve found is that the students who have the least Approach Anxiety have the least thoughts going on in their brain. There are very few questions, if’s and but’s. “I’m asked to approach so I will approach”.


Now the students which have more anxiety will question things a little bit more. They will assess whether they feel like it is safe to approach now, whether they know the right thing to say, they try to predict how the woman will react to them. This resistance means they end up talking themselves out of approaching altogether. These checks are normal and healthy but irrelevant in today’s society. No one is going to hurt you for approaching a woman even a boyfriend. “Sorry didn’t realise you were together, you are a lucky man! bye”. Sorry !! lol


Instead you must go for what you want and not try to avoid what you don’t want. What do you want? For me…. It’s to get laid! Simple as that. As long as I’m approaching I’m happy and my drive is to get laid. You should be the same, or similar. You should NOT be trying to avoid negative reactions, feeling embarrassed or avoiding getting rejected. You SHOULD be approaching trying to get a phone number, kiss close or get laid.


When this simple mind set of going for what you want is in place your Approach Anxiety will dramatically reduce. You will not be focused on the negative things but instead moving towards the positives. Also your results will increase ten fold because your intent is clear, you are going for what you want. How would you ever get the woman when you are worrying about her reaction or the peoples reaction around you? You must just go for it and as long as you go for it then be happy because that is success!



(NEW Video on PUA Method Bootcamp, I breakdown Approach Anxiety, second part of video = FUNNY!!)


Removing Approach Anxiety is the first infield exercise that we do on bootcamp. The reviews always say, (read reviews) Day 1 the only objective was that we approach. We could feel happy and the instructors will feel happy if we just approach.


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I always run a progressive conditioning exercise with the chaps on bootcamp, their level of feeling comfortable while approaching, will raise from usually a four out of ten to a NINE! We will then hammer in the belief that as long as you are taking action that is success. Success is not based on the women’s reaction to you but just that if you took action and approached. If you take action then you are getting better regardless of the response.


The day one removal of Approach Anxiety is one of the main reasons why the bootcamp we teach is three days and not the standard two. I have taught both two and three day bootcamps but the level of improvement in the guys attending three days was always so much higher.


My business partner regularly puts me under pressure to just teach two days so that I can work properly in the office on Friday focusing on the business side of things. As I said though the improvement level of surrounding yourself with the instructors for three days rather than two is far superior even if the number of hours on the bootcamp is the same. It is that extra nights sleep where you wake up and your still alive that seems to make the difference. This whole gig for me is about YOU getting abundance with women but also proper confidence, this is a positive force into this world!



(Checkout this other video on Approach Anxiety that was recorded of me if you haven’t seen it already.)


Every weekend we get guys saying I wish I’d signed up sooner! “I hovered over the sign up button for months before I finally clicked it.” PUA Method Bootcamp is a professional training service where we will give you all the skills for you to get your life with the women that you desire handled. All the instructors teach this FULL TIME, this is not something we do on the side. Bootcamp is our passion and we are all dedicated to getting you master skills with women, massive exposure, big results and leaving the bootcamp with genuine confidence. Not ego based confidence but instead self-esteem where you realise that you are enough as you are.


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Anyway man I’m off, getting hungry for Vitamins and Carbs!


Speak soon and set yourself a goal to do your approaches everyday!


Peace n Love,


Kingy


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