Here is Part Two of my completely free interview series on HB 10 Game done with Chloe and Jemma.  They give three tips for going on a date.  One of the most important things to take away from this is that both girls rarely get approached by cool guys.  Girls who you might think have everything they want in their life already and what could you possibly offer her isn’t a real belief.  Even hot girls still spend time alone at home wanting to go on a fun and exciting date. Adding Value, Kingy

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Have belief that your real self is shinning through and that you are enough already. A guy with options usually doesn’t try to impress other people. It is okay for your friends to big you up but generally you don’t want to try and impress the girl directly yourself.

We’ve finally managed to find time to film our two HB Helpers Chloe and Jemma.  For those who haven’t been on a bootcamp yet this will be your first meeting.  We’ve managed to record some really good footage with the two girls.  Over the coming weeks I shall be posting up dating tips from the girls and also interviews hosted directly by me. These girls get approached a LOT. They can tell very quickly whether a man is worth talking to or not and that is the information I have been looking to dissect in these coming videos.  What women say they want and what they actually respond to is often very different.  That said these girls both being legitimate 9s / 10s have a very good understand of the dating scene.  Going out for drinks with them is ridiculous.  I felt like Neo from the Matrix dealing with AFC guys approaching them everytime I went to the toilet or bar.  Was actually a lot of fun.  After doing this for so long a bit of entertainment on a night out is always welcome.

These girls can handle themselves and I was frankly amazed at the level of [...]]]>

Hey Guys,

We’ve finally managed to find time to film our two HB Helpers Chloe and Jemma.  For those who haven’t been on a bootcamp yet this will be your first meeting.  We’ve managed to record some really good footage with the two girls.  Over the coming weeks I shall be posting up dating tips from the girls and also interviews hosted directly by me.


These girls get approached a LOT.


They can tell very quickly whether a man is worth talking to or not and that is the information I have been looking to dissect in these coming videos.  What women say they want and what they actually respond to is often very different.  That said these girls both being legitimate 9s / 10s have a very good understand of the dating scene.  Going out for drinks with them is ridiculous.  I felt like Neo from the Matrix dealing with AFC guys approaching them everytime I went to the toilet or bar.  Was actually a lot of fun.  After doing this for so long a bit of entertainment on a night out is always welcome.

These girls can handle themselves and I was frankly amazed at the level of dating insight they both have.  Body language, energy levels, logistic handling, frame control, facial ques, fashion advice.  Frankly just being around a girl of a top professional model quality makes every other girl seem ridiculously below you.


Hope you find the coming videos of value and enjoy.  For now just an introduction from the pair, tomorrow I shall post up a video on how long a good date should last.


This end of months bootcamp is on the 26th Friday, Saturday and Sunday.  Chloe / Jemma will be there to help you in person.  Sign up to not only get instruction from myself, Cupid, Cosmic and the other PUA Method instructors but also our HB Helpers too.  There are only a few places left, so get this dating part of your life handled now!


Sorry for the hard sell it’s just that I really believe in what we offer.  It’s my passion to help guys improve and get what they rightfully deserve out of life.  Last bootcamp every student got at least one number close.  Repeat all five students got at least one number close.  Many of them had enough number closes for a month of dates. Checkout the reviews section they really do speak for themselves.  See you soon.


Peace and Love,


Kingy


Chloe



Jemma

A – Avoid negative sources, people, places and habits

B – Believe in yourself

C – Consider things from every angle

D – Dont give up and dont give in

E – Everything you are looking for lies behind the mask you wear

F – Family and friends are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches

G – Give more than you planned to

H – Hang on to your dreams

I – If oppertunity doesn’t knock, build a door

J – Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it

K – Keep trying no matter how hard it seems

L – Love yourself

M – Make it happen

N – Never lie, steal or cheat

O – Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values

P – Practice makes perfect

Q – Quality not quantity in anything you do

R – Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer

S – Stop procrastinating

T – Take control of your own destiny

U – Understand yourself in order to better understand others

V – Visualise it

W – When you lose, [...]]]>

Wanted to post this up.  Straight from the Dalai Lama himself, the A to Z of Zen.  This is copied directly from a poster in the office, some great principles.

A – Avoid negative sources, people, places and habits

B – Believe in yourself

C – Consider things from every angle

D – Dont give up and dont give in

E – Everything you are looking for lies behind the mask you wear

F – Family and friends are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches

G – Give more than you planned to

H – Hang on to your dreams

I – If oppertunity doesn’t knock, build a door

J – Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it

K – Keep trying no matter how hard it seems

L – Love yourself

M – Make it happen

N – Never lie, steal or cheat

O – Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values

P – Practice makes perfect

Q – Quality not quantity in anything you do

R – Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer

S – Stop procrastinating

T – Take control of your own destiny

U – Understand yourself in order to better understand others

V – Visualise it

W – When you lose, dont lose the lesson

X – Xcellence in all your efforts

Y – You are unique, nothing can replace you

Z – Zero in on your target and go for it

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p.s. I’ve stopped drinking since the 1st of Jan and have noticed some real shifts internally.  Why not set a 30 day challenge for yourself and let me know how you get on.

In my pua journey I first started out cold approaching in bars and clubs, not doing any day game because I had a 9 to 6 job. Initially I was doing the classic in-direct approaches and getting good success. In fact I got to a point where I could speak non stop for several hours. Keeping my mouth going using routines, stories and games. It was a thing of beauty…… Until I ran out of things to say. I had also developed the I’m not good enough as I am belief. This took about one year to remove but I’ll talk about this in another post. I soon started to get bored with in-direct and my goals changed [...]]]>

So much of learning to be good with women involves increasing your own comfort zone. Often I get students commenting on how normal it looks for me to run up to a girl in the street or enter a big mixed set in a bar. How at ease and relaxed with myself and the surroundings I am. Was this always the case though? Yes you guessed it, NO! This definitely wasn’t the case.

In my pua journey I first started out cold approaching in bars and clubs, not doing any day game because I had a 9 to 6 job. Initially I was doing the classic in-direct approaches and getting good success. In fact I got to a point where I could speak non stop for several hours. Keeping my mouth going using routines, stories and games. It was a thing of beauty…… Until I ran out of things to say. I had also developed the I’m not good enough as I am belief. This took about one year to remove but I’ll talk about this in another post.


I soon started to get bored with in-direct and my goals changed into a direction of wanting to develop myself. So I started to go direct and work on my humour, social vibing, core confidence e.t.c. Now after a year and a half of being indirect, you’d imagine I’d find it easy to transition to direct. It wasn’t. My social calibration had improved but walking up to a girl and being direct with little material was a completely different comfort zone. In fact doing that was well outside of my current comfort zone.


I was stressed whilst cold approaching like this for several months. Gradually though I familiarised myself with this new behaviour and all those limiting beliefs and uncertainties disappeared. When you are comfortable you demonstrate confidence.


Ever wondered how bar men pick up hot women? They simply are comfortable with the environment and talking to hot women. That’s it. Keeping them is another matter though and that’s usually where they struggle.


With confidence comes positive energy and good sub-communications. For example your posture, eye contact, voice tonality, dominance are always a lot better when you are relaxed rather than stressed or unsure of yourself.





I find myself living most of my life in states of fear and stress. Why do I do this to myself? Good question, I sometimes wonder this myself. Only joking, I love it. I love the feeling of stress or being in an unfamiliar environment because I know these are times when I am growing. If I don’t shy away from these situations, eventually, its only a matter of time, I will become desensitised to them. I will then have a new addition to my personality.


Be willing to make a fool of yourself. A good pua will have been humiliated many times through his journey. Only once he is used to rejection is it possible for him to relax and add tweaks to his game.


If you have little social contact during the day then when you are out at night it will be harder for you to do those first few approaches. Your current state of mind and comfort zone will be very much inside of your head and away from others. The best way to deal with this? Start talking to people straight away. Don’t wait, buy a drink, or goto the toilet. You want to ask someone where the toilet is or find out a good bar recommendation before you do anything.





If you are about to bungee jump the longer you wait on the top of that bridge before you do it the more nervous energy will be produced. This nervous energy / stress is your brain telling you not to do it. Instead of waiting, you want to jump straight away so this chemical reaction doesn’t have time to take place. If you get the bus into town then ask the driver how his week has been. Starting getting sociable immediately.

Push yourself, enjoy the pain, bask in the growth. Myself, I shall be doing a stand up comedy course and Wing Chun this year. Both scare me and excite me for different reasons. Will they be tough? Yes. Will they make me a better more dynamic individual? Without a doubt.


Live your life with passion and stress,


Always growing and evolving,


Kingy

So onto the main topic of the day Russell Brand. I find myself constantly looking for role models to evolve myself further.  The people I choose aren’t necessarily big pimps but instead have characteristics that I’d like for myself.  Russell Brand (before Katy Perry) had been giving his love to an un-imaginable amount of women.  In this article I shall analyse and reveal the secrets to how he has been so successful with women.

At first glance Russell Brand doesn’t appear to adhere to the typical Alpha Male stereotype.  Skinny, long hair, feminine body language and an obvious vulnerability don’t usually go hand in hand with a Don Juan.  Before we take a closer look though, lets remove his fame.  He has been quoted saying that when girls don’t know he’s famous it usually takes a lot longer to get them to come to his house, bed or a public toilet.  This [...]]]>

Hey Happy Christmas and New Year! It’s all about stuffing and jelly sandwiches I’ve spent christmas with my family. Playing a lot of multiplayer Wii which is awesome with four players on a wide screen and eating way too much. Great Times

So onto the main topic of the day Russell Brand. I find myself constantly looking for role models to evolve myself further.  The people I choose aren’t necessarily big pimps but instead have characteristics that I’d like for myself.  Russell Brand (before Katy Perry) had been giving his love to an un-imaginable amount of women.  In this article I shall analyse and reveal the secrets to how he has been so successful with women.

At first glance Russell Brand doesn’t appear to adhere to the typical Alpha Male stereotype.  Skinny, long hair, feminine body language and an obvious vulnerability don’t usually go hand in hand with a Don Juan.  Before we take a closer look though, lets remove his fame.  He has been quoted saying that when girls don’t know he’s famous it usually takes a lot longer to get them to come to his house, bed or a public toilet.  This is definitely true as women need time to asses a mans behaviour.  Where mens’ attraction to women is based primarily on her replication value.  Many single men would have no problem having sex with a woman that they just met in a park.

So lets remove his fame (sorry Russell, you can have it back shortly )  Imagine this scenario, he enters a nightclub and no one has ever met or seen him before.

First off his style, unique, eye catching and sexual.  This makes him standout out in a cool way and can help a lot.  By creating interest and attention from women, other women will then presume you are an attractive male.  I do this sometimes in the form of fake tattoos, my ear piercings and dressing in extravagant clothes.  Max has tested this too by spiking his hair up, (which is huge) wearing funky clothes and standing in a bar by himself.  Obviously he is having fun and looking confident rather than nervous or like a social reject.  Just by standing out and going to a bar he will get approached by a few women in the evening and can choose one to take home.  This is nothing to do with his looks, just the fact he’s congruent in standingout.

Sexual Humour plays a big part in Russell Brands interactions with women.  This is both because it amuses him and he has learnt over time that it gets girls excited too.  Saying shocking things or sexual topics will create emotions in girls.  Girls respond to emotions and not logic.  This is done with natural calibration and gradual escalation.  Not immediately will Russell Brand launch into strong sexual topics, instead, over a period of time.

Russell Brand has great confidence and is very un-reactive.  From reading his auto-biography it seems that this wasn’t always the case though.  In fact from his own admission, he used to be shy and would rather spend time away from people.  Gradually since college he exposed himself to new situations and social interactions outside of his comfort zone.  In the beginning this involved a lot of talking to people on the street.  Sound familiar?  Then it progressed to MTV work, presenting to larger groups of people and crazy stunts on his show like peeing his pants in public.  If you stay outside of your comfort zone enough you will grow and those old challenges will become easy.

A thing that we share in common is that Russell meditates regularly.  I’ve meditated for about ten minutes every day for six months.  Not a massive investment of time but because it has been regular I have seen positive shifts in my inner game. My ego is less so I rarely need any form of positive feedback from other people when talking to them.  For instance I remember one time when I was chatting with a group of four girls and two guys.  I ended up not dominating the interaction because I was an outsider of the social group and they were talking about a lot of insider topics.  This caused a level of stress, I went into my head and then I became stifled and up tight.  With meditation, I’m now able to stay in the moment, watch my breathing and stay present.  I don’t mind what is happening, I stay happy and outside of my head.  Then I can either pursue a new topic of conversation or wait for the conversation to natural come back to me and because I’m in a good mood I usually respond well.

Can you see the difference when he’s not completely comfortable?  Below are two clips, one from his first Jonathon Ross performance and the other from a later one.  In the first clip he is a lot less comfortable and ends up micromanaging most of the interview.  This leads to less humour and if I’m super analytical a passive aggressive vibe.  In the second clip he is a lot more relaxed and able to vibe as his best self.  I don’t show this to mock but instead to encourage others.  People aren’t perfect or born great.  It takes time and practice to become great and if someone is better than you then they have just practiced more.  It is completely natural to be nervous about going into an unknown situation.  The way to have complete confidence in something is to do it over and over again.

I showed this to my friend and she struggled to see the difference (other than he seemed happier and funnier in the second clip). Girls aren’t thinking “he’s not feeling entitled” they usually are just responding to the vibe that you put out. Look at his eyes, facial expressions and how relaxed he looks in the two clips. From teaching pickup for years I’m able to notice social ques I’d say as good if not better than women can. It has taken me years of experiencing difficult social situations to get this, definitly not something that I was born with.

Those, my insights on the English gent and legend that is Russell Brand.  Definitely a recommended role model for learning how to get better with women and social interactions in general.  It is an un-natural thing to break down someone’s behaviour but the quickest way to get good at something is to model yourself on someone who is good.  That is why I make sure that all our instructors including myself demo on Bootcamps.  Next time I think I’ll be focusing on the pimping power of 50 cent.

Peace and Love,

Kingy

p.s. I’ve been getting a lot of emails asking when the Zen of Dating book is going to be released. It’s finished, just needs editing, I predict another couple weeks at the desk. Remember you will get a free copy plus the Text Game E-Book when you sign up for a Full Bootcamp. Set your goals for the new year and go for it!

Limiting beliefs like this hold you back from being socially free and able to talk to anyone at anytime. It takes time to remove limiting beliefs but I assure it is possible and AA can be easily controlled to a level where it doesn’t affect you anymore. Recap:- Step One: Start basic and just ask a few directions, this will get you more social Step Two: After a few directions continue the conversation on a bit by either stacking another opinion opener or a general cold read like “you look like you’ve had a crazy day”. Step Three: If you are still feeling anxious then do something crazy, say something or do something that is not socially acceptable. This will allow you brain to accept that it doesn’t matter and no one really cares what you do. Bootcamps have been excellent and I feel like I am [...]]]>

This week the team and I recorded this video on approach anxiety which a pua will usually experience at some level during his development. Being born in Surrey where its all ya ya ya you are quickly led to believe that talking to strangers is wrong and you should act in a polite and demure way.

Limiting beliefs like this hold you back from being socially free and able to talk to anyone at anytime. It takes time to remove limiting beliefs but I assure it is possible and AA can be easily controlled to a level where it doesn’t affect you anymore.



Recap:-


Step One: Start basic and just ask a few directions, this will get you more social


Step Two: After a few directions continue the conversation on a bit by either stacking another opinion opener or a general cold read like “you look like you’ve had a crazy day”.


Step Three: If you are still feeling anxious then do something crazy, say something or do something that is not socially acceptable. This will allow you brain to accept that it doesn’t matter and no one really cares what you do.


Bootcamps have been excellent and I feel like I am top of my game at the moment, checkout the bootcamp and review pages for more details – change your life with a christmas present you will never regret.


Peace and Love,


Kingy