The other day I actually went out by myself to the mall. 1st thing I did was get a smoothie so wherever I went it looked like I was on a mission, but still there to enjoy every moment of it, through my smoothie.

Next I went out looking for an x-mas gift. Using my periferal I looked out for ladies while “minding my own business.”

After a few minutes of being a chicken, I hit it off with a worker at Fossil, lil bit of joking and flirting and I was on…

Next stop, Macy’s. I know employees are paid to be nice, so it was time to talk to some customers, so I found a 2 set in the appliance section, mom & daughter. All it took was a split second, (I could have walked away), but once again decided “f-it,” and just went up and straight asked them for advice on what I could get for a secret santa.

To my relief, I got a positive response. At first they were a little caught off guard…like “what??”…but once they saw my intentions were genuine, (I really needed help), they gave in and started thinking reeeeaaaal hard for me, haha. We decided on chocolate, couldn’t go wrong, but I had to get more opinions!

On my path to self discovery, I approached a few more sets, and overall, awesome response. A mom & 2-daughter 3-set I approached got so into it I kinda had to remove myself with a spatula, (very abruptly).

So since then, I’ve been running on this renewed sense of confidence! Never again can I go to the mall, by myself, with the same lame mentality of “where are my friends when I need them.”

The key is to be the “man on a mission”, and my personal addition to the “3-second rule” is if within those 3 seconds you’re spotted staring, it’s your responsibility to immediately walk up and engage the set. Don’t give them a sec to think.

(They were all pretty damn cute too.)

However I am not sure that you should try to be as enthusiastic and as positive as is absolutely possible it will scare people.

Most people myself included have to raise their energy but you have to calibrate it enough so that you do not seem like a try-hard