Hi Chaps,


Today lets break down meditation and how getting your Inner-Game can help you with pick up. Ultimately what we are all here for, hauling ass!


My love of meditation and mastery of Inner-Game really has been born from me previously not being able to find any other resources. Yes there are inner-game products out there, however none of them have ever worked for me. I tend to find the majority of them gave insight into how the brain works but they didn’t explain how to implement confidence. Girls aren’t attracted to a man who understands about confidence, they want the man to BE confident.


I never felt like I truly had this and if I’m honest, I had to fake it. I was still getting many situations where I would lose my confidence, get nervous, anxious, passive aggressive or stressed out in some way. It drove me nuts for ages, my outer-game was ultra-tight but I was still not being myself. I could pick up no problem if the situation was right but I didn’t have what they call core-confidence. So over the past two years I have had to go and figure it all out for myself through crazy experiments, mixed with trial and error.

If you haven’t read the “how can i fix my brain?” blog post then I recommend that you check that out first. This will go into a bit more game related detail on where the inner-game fits in with pick up.


So feeding in from the last post, meditation shuts down the thought process which stops your emotional and physical reactions taking place. This stops the emotional buttons getting triggered and then on top of that you can do neural re-setting of your emotional circuits. Why do we have to do all of these things? Essentially because in the past a bad situation happened, we felt an emotion, we didn’t know how to deal with the emotion and so it got trapped. Then every situation that the brains views as similar will activate this past emotion.


These emotions are designed to protect us, imagine back when we were cavemen and we threw a stick at a bear. It would chase us, attack us, and we would go into flight or fight mode. Our brain would quickly realise that bears equal pain and so we might get a similar emotion if a bear in the future was to chase us. In modern society the risk of bear attacks unfortunately is quite remote. Hey, I’d love to have my three hot girlfriends and live in the woods. That just me?

Fixing your inner game is the process you undertake to remove emotional buttons and your negative core beliefs. Do you feel as confident talking to a hot bitchy model type in a nightclub compared to talking to your mum in the kitchen? Do you get nervous? Anxious? Scared? Nervous about Rejection? Hope that she likes you? Unless a conscious effort has been made to focus on this stuff then the answer is 99% of the time, yes.


A lot of guys just want a girl without having to change themself, quick fix. They learn some lines, get a girlfriend and then go back to playing Modern Warfare and staying in. They don’t want to think about what it takes to keep an evolved beautiful woman in their life. And would you be surprised if I told you that money and looks are minimal factors? They just want a wank bucket that they can masturbate into and discard afterwards. I know you aren’t in this category because you are reading this blog.


So what does having good game ultimately come down to? Three things: Confidence, Positivity and an Ability to Create Emotions. These are the most attractive qualities desired by women. You can call Confidence and Positivity the Inner Game and the emotion creating the Outer-game. There are more subtle parts to game but generally this is what is going on. If you can make a girl feel emotions when she is around you then she will feel attraction, sometimes even if they are bad emotions. Learning how to create emotions in women is mostly a learnt behaviour, knowing what to say and what to do to speed up the seduction process. It is also possible to do an emotion transfer but that is for another post.

Finally we get to the defence and attack parts to game:-


Defence – Meditation, Inner Game, CBT, Emotion Re-wiring, Alkalisation, Self-Image


Attack – Creating Emotions, Social Intelligence, Expression of Personality


Lets give a basic example. Because it is fresh, today I met an estate agent because I’m looking to rent a new place, hopefully next to the park if I can afford it. Before we met today he did something which I would consider unprofessional. He sent me a silly text message.


Estate Agent: “Hey I have this property here and it has this and that”.


Me: “Hey thank you but looking at the pictures I don’t think this one is really for me”


Estate Agent: “I have never had a previous client who refused to see a property based on its photos in all my years of doing this”


// personally I found this tone un-professional. I replied with:


Me: “That was un-professional”


I didn’t think anything of it but when I met him today for the first time to view this other property I noticed him trying to attack me a bit. He would maintain eye contact for longer than normal, move into my personal space and also try to get me to do things. Generally it was his tone and the way he was doing it. It felt off, not in line with the natural energy of the environment. I’m very aware of people doing these things to me because I used to do those things myself. I had a black belt in manipulation back in my routine days.

By doing that semi aggressive behaviour he was looking for me to get some sort of reaction. Either to beta myself, get un-comfortable or fight or flight type response. Just to be clear I definitely don’t have a belief that everyone is out to get me and I actually think the world is a very cool place. In this incidence there was a legitimate agenda going on.


Luckily I have been doing a lot of meditation recently so when he did this I had no reaction what so ever. In fact I just starred at him. I didn’t move back, fidget, get un-comfortable. I just felt happy in myself and viewed it all as a bit of entertainment. There was zero attachment to his behaviour what so ever. This is primarily because my thought process was still turned off from the meditation which stopped my ego turning this event into “what does this say about me?”. Mostly the things that are happening around us on a day to day basis have no affect on our well being. That being the case it is best to keep thoughts to a minimum.

My defence was strong or you might say my inner-game was solid. This is the same when chatting up girls. Having a strong defence is important.


The attack I gave in the example given was a very simple:


“Could you give me some space please I’m feeling smothered”


No manipulation, instead telling the situation exactly how it was. Calling him out on his behaviour. He instantly looked me in the eyes *no emotional reaction* he pulled back and stopped. His attitude actually changed after that and we shared a little joke about the past tenant on the way out.


There was no need to make an enemy or dominant the interaction. I could’ve done some Amog tactics, moved into his personal space, NLP frame control. These are all options and they come into the attack. Really what you decide to do comes down to your own values on what you think is okay. Personally I advocate truth and just calling people out on bad behaviour. It shows you have personal boundaries and that you are above playing a game. It commands a level of respect.

When sarging I’m at my best with a clear mind. Often I will just stand in front of the girls and put the social pressure on them to talk first. This is all done with calibration. Regardless of my style of approach and interaction, if I feel happy then the girl will feel happy.


Imagine a smiley, completely content man approach a woman in a bar, do you think she would reject him? Probably not. Why would she reject him, he is completely non-needy. He is happy already and so only offering value, she’ll at the very least be receptive to his approach.


We all need a solid platform of inner-game first before learning the outer-game. On our PUA Bootcamp we give lots of outer-game but also the most in-depth inner-game you could ever need.


Peace n Love,


Kingy

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